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Help me !!!!!!

Mumoo

I am on my third glass of wine and in tears with frustration and stress, I have said horrible things to my 12 year old son ( who has Aspergers) I feel like the worst mum in the world and I feel so alone... He has been at secondary school for 3 weeks.. Has already been verbally abused  and picked on .. He comes home most days with something missing out of his bag.. Today someone has took all his pens and homework diary out of his bag whilst he was nit looking... And yet I am blaming him!!!!!....what is with me....the school are fantastic in trying to sort everything out and help him but I think it's me that needs help....

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  • Hi - I don't think the school are fantastic.  Maybe they think they are!  Has your son got a statement of educational needs so he gets the support he needs at school?  Also do you now think he's at the right school or would be be better off at another mainstream school or an autism-specific school where they understood + could meet his needs?  Right, that's the questions over with.  As a parent I really feel for you.  It's the disappointment, frustration etc.  I'd guess hopes were quite high about him starting his new school, which appeared to be a good 1.  Then comes the disappointment.  The need to release that emotion, then the regret at taking it out on him.  Then the thought that you're the worst mum in the world.  Rationally you know you're not + you wish you hadn't said what you sd, probably thru disappointment + frustration.  We echo our children's pain.  If I were you I'd say sorry to him + explain why it happened.  Then I'd apply myself to sorting things out so you both can move on, placing his needs as an aspie as your top priority.  If things improve for him, then they'll improve for you.Smile

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  • Hi - I don't think the school are fantastic.  Maybe they think they are!  Has your son got a statement of educational needs so he gets the support he needs at school?  Also do you now think he's at the right school or would be be better off at another mainstream school or an autism-specific school where they understood + could meet his needs?  Right, that's the questions over with.  As a parent I really feel for you.  It's the disappointment, frustration etc.  I'd guess hopes were quite high about him starting his new school, which appeared to be a good 1.  Then comes the disappointment.  The need to release that emotion, then the regret at taking it out on him.  Then the thought that you're the worst mum in the world.  Rationally you know you're not + you wish you hadn't said what you sd, probably thru disappointment + frustration.  We echo our children's pain.  If I were you I'd say sorry to him + explain why it happened.  Then I'd apply myself to sorting things out so you both can move on, placing his needs as an aspie as your top priority.  If things improve for him, then they'll improve for you.Smile

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