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Is verbose speech a sign of masking?

DeSpereaux

I have been thinking recently about masking and the various means that one uses to mask. 
It has occurred to me, that the use of a ‘passive voice’ in my communication, is a big part of the way I write and speak.

I can remember all the way back to college, that tutors used to comment on my ‘wordiness’, I well-achieved (D*D*D*) in College but kids always used to say “You’re not that smart are you? You just write a lot”. The implication being that I was obscuring my lack of understanding.
The more I’ve written, the better I have gotten at writing, but I still write a lot. I find that every now and again I take on a new element of language, but I always write a lot and I never reread, I just speed-write to victory. 
In my speech I do talk a lot, talking about anything at length and for length, I enjoy getting my thoughts out and enjoy how language is constructed in my head.  
But I also speak longer words and phrases in a disagreeable situation, to offset any aggressive reaction to my imperative, I find that a great rhetorical-tool can be found in elongated words and phrases and sentences.

I have thought that: Maybe it is because I have enjoy vocabulary but not grammar, or maybe it is because I never formally-learned grammar at school, or maybe I abandoned the ‘active voice’ as a means of non-detection and non-confrontation. It may even have been, a kind-of speed writing that I developed, to safely expose myself to writing and speech.

It has not been the case, that all the individuals that I know (who have an Autism Spectrum Condition), have a circumlocutory communication style. I have known some ASC individuals, to be very literal and active in their communication, and no less intelligent.

So I guess I am just interested to know: How this style of communication sits-with and is experienced by the community? Why the community thinks it occurs? Is it born of the environment and exposure? Is it a repetitive action or an interest? Is it a means of evasion or development? Is it the result of the level of skill attainment?

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  • in reply to Ann :)

    I think I do say ‘yes’ to a lot of things and am happy enough to get exploited. 

    But there comes a point where a have to say ‘no’, which can be in moments that seem odd to some, for example I will not excuse myself when I am being blamed without cause.  
    I’ll give my plea once, and then starts the charade, but I can frustrate a-lot of people who just would like to sate their frustration.

    I find that my rhetorical-tactics run along the same lines as overload, shutdown and meltdown. 
    I’ll reach my intuitive limit, then I’ll resort to speed-socials, then I’ll evade, then we have a tirade on our hands.  
    But the older I get the stronger my defences are.I wouldn’t call what I do small-talk though, I’d sooner call it rambling as I don’t actually require another participant, once we are past a social point..

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