How challenging is small talk for you?

I think people might describe me as being well-mannered. Though I try to be, it's not the flattering opinion it might seem but, instead, testament to my restricted behaviour in company - I have to follow conversational conventions, and politeness is such a convention. 

If someone asks "How are you?", then I can answer briefly or (far too) extensively; both might be viewed as autistic habits. None of this means I'm at ease in conversations, as cues and subtleties don't always make their presences felt. Most importantly, I have to remind myself to ask "And how are you?" in return; not because I don't care but because *making the conversational transition is a hard, slow process for me and doesn't spring to my mind immediately*. And all the while I'm conscious that mine is a limited life, one which limits fluent and interesting conversation. 

How difficult or easy do you find small talk and general conversation?

Parents
  • In terms of being able to say the right things, it's not too difficult for me, though it wasn't until I was about 25 that I had enough practice and observation of other people to get it right.

    In terms of how it actually feels inside... it's excruciating. I have to consciously monitor the situation to make sure my tone, statements, AND body language are all 'normal'. I know the other person doesn't really care about the answers to any questions they're asking. And if they say something that doesn't fit the scripts I've learned I have to try and improvise. I'd rather just not talk to people.

  • I just saw what you wrote and you captured exactly how I feel. Thank you.

Reply Children
No Data