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New to this...dealing with husband anger

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Hi, I'm really struggling to cope with husband who has high functioning autism. He seems so angry so much. He says if I didn't upset him he wouldn't be angry. His anger can be passive or verbal abuse. I often feel like I'm cowering in a corner ready for the metaphorical booting. How do I manage this? I am brickwalling to protect myself emotionally. I am so tired. X

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  • I think a good place the draw the line on tolerance is Domestic Abuse, I think that something needs to change there, either one or both of you has some thinking to do.

    I think you should first consider that it is not your job to take abuse from an abuser.
    Secondly, you should consider what benefit you are offering him by enabling him to take his stress and moodiness out on you, it is essentially, enabling him to warp into the worst version of himself.

    To allow an abuser to coerce, bully, harass and control you; is good for neither you or him. Sometimes people are a bad match for each other. Considering what you’ve said I think you should contact a professional or organisation, to at least get an objective view of the situation, so that you have better perspective.

    I apologise for the course reply, but I think it best to give a firm view for you to consider, as it seems that you are indecisive in your thoughts on the matter.

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  • I think a good place the draw the line on tolerance is Domestic Abuse, I think that something needs to change there, either one or both of you has some thinking to do.

    I think you should first consider that it is not your job to take abuse from an abuser.
    Secondly, you should consider what benefit you are offering him by enabling him to take his stress and moodiness out on you, it is essentially, enabling him to warp into the worst version of himself.

    To allow an abuser to coerce, bully, harass and control you; is good for neither you or him. Sometimes people are a bad match for each other. Considering what you’ve said I think you should contact a professional or organisation, to at least get an objective view of the situation, so that you have better perspective.

    I apologise for the course reply, but I think it best to give a firm view for you to consider, as it seems that you are indecisive in your thoughts on the matter.

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