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New to this...dealing with husband anger

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Hi, I'm really struggling to cope with husband who has high functioning autism. He seems so angry so much. He says if I didn't upset him he wouldn't be angry. His anger can be passive or verbal abuse. I often feel like I'm cowering in a corner ready for the metaphorical booting. How do I manage this? I am brickwalling to protect myself emotionally. I am so tired. X

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  • I am female so can’t figure out a man’s mind. However anger issues have ALWAYS been a problem for me but I’ve never felt the need to blame them on anyone else! It is possible to be autistic and have other issues too such as being abusive and controlling. You can be supportive of your husband if he is truly seeking help and answers to his problem but please don’t put yourself in harms way and find a safe place if you need to bolt for a while.

    I currently live with my son who has a dissociative identity disorder. He is an adult and a big lad. He has fits of anger which he definitely has no control over due to the nature of his problem. However I would still not put myself in harms way if I felt in danger.   What I’m trying to say is that you are under a tremendous amount of stress for so many reasons and this will or maybe is taking its toll. I just want to suggest that you seek support and keep yourself safe. You are no good to anyone if you are emotionally frazzled.

    Take care. I hope answers and help can be found xx

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  • I am female so can’t figure out a man’s mind. However anger issues have ALWAYS been a problem for me but I’ve never felt the need to blame them on anyone else! It is possible to be autistic and have other issues too such as being abusive and controlling. You can be supportive of your husband if he is truly seeking help and answers to his problem but please don’t put yourself in harms way and find a safe place if you need to bolt for a while.

    I currently live with my son who has a dissociative identity disorder. He is an adult and a big lad. He has fits of anger which he definitely has no control over due to the nature of his problem. However I would still not put myself in harms way if I felt in danger.   What I’m trying to say is that you are under a tremendous amount of stress for so many reasons and this will or maybe is taking its toll. I just want to suggest that you seek support and keep yourself safe. You are no good to anyone if you are emotionally frazzled.

    Take care. I hope answers and help can be found xx

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