Bored and lonely and no job

NB: I'm living at home.

Sorry this is a bit long.

I'm a graduate student (I technically graduate in a couple of weeks) living in Plymouth, Devon. I've finished my rather disappointing top up year at university from college where I felt lonely a lot. In college it was easier as the environment was more classroom-like so I could easily chat to people and generally interact. However at university the work was very solo and if I tried to chat to people in the computer rooms they'd just say I was disturbing them Frown. Also due to software incompatability (thanks Adobe) I ended up having to work from home which is a bit lonely.

I had a look at the societies there but there weren't many that suited me. I don't like the pub/nightclub/disco atmosphere at all, unpleasent and dull. I joined Camcru who seemed okay but there was only about 5 events in the whole year which was a bit rubbish and I also joined the (student) vegetarian society there (since I'm a vegetarian) which ran about once a month with meals out at vegetarian food places.

The problem though with a group environment I find is that if there is a crowd of, say, ten or more people talking simultaneously I can't make out a word. I just hear it as noise and cannot join in since I can't pick up on the threads of conversation and can only talk to whoever's nearest to me. This has also finished with the end of the university year.

Right now I'm looking for a job and a life and finding neither. I vaguely know some people here but they do not generally respond to my attempts to contact them and there's noone I can see on a regular basis. I also have no activities to participate in and the absence of anyone to do them with is somewhat dispiriting. I had a look at social clubs and societies here but I can't find anything suitable for me. I want to find, for example, I club where I can experiement with various forms of 3D art and creativity (mixed media) as opposed to painting and drawing which I'm not so keen on. I tried a club at uni in the latter but wasn't that great.

Jobs wise it feels futile as I've been looking around the job sites for a print design something something type job (see my website www.goodwinsanimations.com/) in Plymouth area to no success. It doesn't help that I only have a vague idea of what I'm after or how to keyword it. I don't want a higher up role such as managerial etc. because I'd probably be totally lost.

My friends from London suggested I look for just any shop job but I think that kind of thing would bore me to death, I'm a creative, and I'm probably overqualified with a degree and no shop experience.

I'm a bit stuck now with nothing to do every day and more importantly noone to do anything with. I see groups of people around and just feel lonely. Constantly. Help.

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  • Tabby, I assume you have autism ?

    You are at a cross roads, like many people your age, being a vegetarian you are also more likely to be an idealist (according to statistics) so your expectations are high and not getting met good or fast enough.

    You just need a new environment, a day course at college, an art project for one, come on ! think ! Wink I give myself flexible targets, which I work towards, eg,, Travel(this can be anywhere), Socialise(this can be anyone, even talking to a neighbour for 5 minutes), nice house (anything to bright it up), eat healthy( make a nice meal) and lots more targets which are more guides and reminders, there is lots to do, if you focus.

    Just list what you wish out of life and work slowly towards it... step by step.. but Life is not a task nor a puzzle to finish, enjoy your boredom even Laughing

     

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  • Tabby, I assume you have autism ?

    You are at a cross roads, like many people your age, being a vegetarian you are also more likely to be an idealist (according to statistics) so your expectations are high and not getting met good or fast enough.

    You just need a new environment, a day course at college, an art project for one, come on ! think ! Wink I give myself flexible targets, which I work towards, eg,, Travel(this can be anywhere), Socialise(this can be anyone, even talking to a neighbour for 5 minutes), nice house (anything to bright it up), eat healthy( make a nice meal) and lots more targets which are more guides and reminders, there is lots to do, if you focus.

    Just list what you wish out of life and work slowly towards it... step by step.. but Life is not a task nor a puzzle to finish, enjoy your boredom even Laughing

     

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