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I Sperg

Today I learned that one of my adult child's Friends Lorna now goes by the name Loz and identifies as male.  

Apparently if  am not to cause offence I now need to rejig a couple of decades of being vaguely aware of this person as a very feminine looking girl through to young woman and refer to Loz as HE in conversation from now on.

Loz's boyfriend apparently has had to make psychological adjustments that make my issues look trivial in comparison, but apparently he will do that for love.... 

Funny old world innit?

I will say this: The next time my o/h decides to crack wise at my expense, we'll see how she likes being effectively in a lesbian relationship for a while.. The cheapest way to go trans I've figured is to also change my faith at the same time. No biggie, we worship the same god, just in a diverse way.... Then al I need is a cheap and cheerful bhurka to chuck over the "cargo pants and tee", and the job is done! 

(I think I'll keep that one "in the hopper" for if my personal war of the sexes battlefield situation demands "special weapons" one day) We seem to be in a period of detente right now, so maybe I'll hold off ordering the bhurka...

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  • To be honest I'm not sure how they experience being they/them. I didn't read anything about that made any sense. 

    It makes me wonder, because I've always had tendencies to speak 'with my other-self', as if two separate beings were talking with each other, instead of speaking 'to myself', like a monologue. Some 10 years ago, I pushed it a bit farther, and decided that there is actually 4 separate entities, one of them is non-speaker, and one is a woman. I've thought about it until now as a sort of mental excercise, a joke, or an entartainment when I'm alone. Especially that I did put a mirror by my PC desk, so I can see my reflection when doing something on my PC, and when two guys that usually do the talking argue with each other, I make one speak out loud, and the other move lips only, but I can see that in a mirroir and hear in my head.

    Does it make any sense to anybody?

    Or does it only prove that I'm insane? Except I knew that since small child, and I am very good at hiding it Smiley The same as I knew that my resting place is going to be mental asylum Stuck out tongue

  • in reply to Mariusz

    That’s interesting, I can relate to some of that. Also, when I try to organise myself and speak aloud I say ‘right, what are we doing today’ or similar. That’s not the royal we. So what is it? 

  • in reply to Shardovan

    I very often give myself a "good talking to" or bark instructions, commands or rhetorical questions at myself.

    In terms of what I call this type of behaviour?....Mental Illness !!!

  • in reply to Shardovan

    I absolutely have this. Sometimes a voice barks instructions to me in extreme situations, and it's not a mental illness it's a guardian angel. T.A. theory posits that humans have three generally applicable ego states where we act either as a child, or an adult or a parent.

    Viewed through the lens of that body of knowledge, it's kinda like my parent breaks through sometimes and uses my voice to do it

    If the voice told me to do bad or mad stuff it woudl be an illness, as it is, it's a useful quirk at worst...

    I'm glad to definitely have something in common with my peers for once! :c)

  • in reply to Deleted User

    Same. Well, maybe not barking orders. But I catch myself putting my shoes in the fridge or something it’s ‘what are you doing?’ Not ‘what am I doing?’ Then I kind of hear the inner ‘who, me?’ Or rather feel the startle reflex of a more absent minded part of myself 

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  • in reply to Deleted User

    Same. Well, maybe not barking orders. But I catch myself putting my shoes in the fridge or something it’s ‘what are you doing?’ Not ‘what am I doing?’ Then I kind of hear the inner ‘who, me?’ Or rather feel the startle reflex of a more absent minded part of myself 

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  • in reply to Shardovan

    I absolutely have this. Sometimes a voice barks instructions to me in extreme situations, and it's not a mental illness it's a guardian angel. T.A. theory posits that humans have three generally applicable ego states where we act either as a child, or an adult or a parent.

    Viewed through the lens of that body of knowledge, it's kinda like my parent breaks through sometimes and uses my voice to do it

    If the voice told me to do bad or mad stuff it woudl be an illness, as it is, it's a useful quirk at worst...

    I'm glad to definitely have something in common with my peers for once! :c)