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Saintydad

Son diagnosed 18 months ago with Autism,10 years old and spends all day in his room playing his pc.We were told to allow this as its his window to the world, but over the last 2 months he seems to be getting worse.my sons autism is noticeable in the social side of life.I would love any help or advice in how to break the computer,school computer,bed,computer cycle. He just sits on his bed when we dont allow him pc time.He wont go out and play and spends very little time with the family as a family.On top of all this he has bad excema and when he gets stressed it flares up considerably (and due to his condition,if he doesnt get on his pc he gets stressed) I thank you in advance for any future help.

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  • As long as she does not have hazardous items in her room and her escape in the event of a fire isn't hampered then I would say it's none of social services business.

    Their job is not to tell people to tidy up their bedrooms, and children often are messy.

    My now 9 year old, was always messy (she has autism) and I was always telling her to clean up messes behind herself.  Almost overnight, about 6 months ago she realised herself that she didn't like to leave her bedroom messy and she started being much better about putting things away neatly.  I believe she has ADHD as well, and your daughter could have this (often co-morbid with autism) as it would contribute to her being disorganised.

    Social services frequently overstep the mark, and sometimes need politely pointing out that they are doing so.  They look out for unkempt homes as signs of neglect, but from what you say in your case it is something entirely different and they should understand, especially with the nature of your daughter's disability.  It's not their place to tell people how to live.  I think these people sometimes just go looking for things they can criticise.

    It's not a bad thing for you to encourage your daughter into being more tidy (without stressing her) as it's a life skill, by explaining to her the logic of it, but everyone is different and some adults are untidy and disorganised, that's just how it is.  She is very young and also social services need to get their priorities right.

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  • As long as she does not have hazardous items in her room and her escape in the event of a fire isn't hampered then I would say it's none of social services business.

    Their job is not to tell people to tidy up their bedrooms, and children often are messy.

    My now 9 year old, was always messy (she has autism) and I was always telling her to clean up messes behind herself.  Almost overnight, about 6 months ago she realised herself that she didn't like to leave her bedroom messy and she started being much better about putting things away neatly.  I believe she has ADHD as well, and your daughter could have this (often co-morbid with autism) as it would contribute to her being disorganised.

    Social services frequently overstep the mark, and sometimes need politely pointing out that they are doing so.  They look out for unkempt homes as signs of neglect, but from what you say in your case it is something entirely different and they should understand, especially with the nature of your daughter's disability.  It's not their place to tell people how to live.  I think these people sometimes just go looking for things they can criticise.

    It's not a bad thing for you to encourage your daughter into being more tidy (without stressing her) as it's a life skill, by explaining to her the logic of it, but everyone is different and some adults are untidy and disorganised, that's just how it is.  She is very young and also social services need to get their priorities right.

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