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What other options do you give him? You said he just sits on the bed when you don't give him computer time.

First his just sitting on the bed, as well as being a response to being deprived of his PC based activity, isn't the same as it might be for you. He might be thinking productively.

You assume he wants go go out and play or be with family, and others have responded to aspects of this from their own experience. But I think you need to read up on issues such as sensory overload and sensitivities to aural, visual and other stimuli. You also need to find out more about social communication difficulties.

Socialising can be difficult as people on the spectrum cannot pick up social cues and may miss a lot of the continuity, and will feel locked out. So socialising may not be the enjoyable experience it is for you.Play may be noisy and confusing. It is important you read up on this and observe how and when he encounters difficulties with this. With better understanding there may be social and play situations he finds easier.

But back to sitting on the bed. What other distractions has he got. Does any kind of music interest him? Would he listen on headphones? What visual stimulus does he enjoy, such as lava lamps or digitally generated pattern displays. Can he do jigsaws or model making? Can he watch television or videos.

I suffered very much from ecsma, particularly on my hands, and during periods of anxiety swollen hands made things worse. It always flared up at exam times, and I had to write with my hand on blotting paper owing to the amount of fluid discharge from sores. As an adult the tendency has gradually faded away as I've got better at managing stress.

The main point is not to assume that he's missing out on social life or play. These things could be really uncomfortable or unpleasant for him, and you need to try to understand when in such situations he is distressed.

Hope this helps.

What other options do you give him? You said he just sits on the bed when you don't give him computer time.

First his just sitting on the bed, as well as being a response to being deprived of his PC based activity, isn't the same as it might be for you. He might be thinking productively.

You assume he wants go go out and play or be with family, and others have responded to aspects of this from their own experience. But I think you need to read up on issues such as sensory overload and sensitivities to aural, visual and other stimuli. You also need to find out more about social communication difficulties.

Socialising can be difficult as people on the spectrum cannot pick up social cues and may miss a lot of the continuity, and will feel locked out. So socialising may not be the enjoyable experience it is for you.Play may be noisy and confusing. It is important you read up on this and observe how and when he encounters difficulties with this. With better understanding there may be social and play situations he finds easier.

But back to sitting on the bed. What other distractions has he got. Does any kind of music interest him? Would he listen on headphones? What visual stimulus does he enjoy, such as lava lamps or digitally generated pattern displays. Can he do jigsaws or model making? Can he watch television or videos.

I suffered very much from ecsma, particularly on my hands, and during periods of anxiety swollen hands made things worse. It always flared up at exam times, and I had to write with my hand on blotting paper owing to the amount of fluid discharge from sores. As an adult the tendency has gradually faded away as I've got better at managing stress.

The main point is not to assume that he's missing out on social life or play. These things could be really uncomfortable or unpleasant for him, and you need to try to understand when in such situations he is distressed.

Hope this helps.