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Saintydad

Son diagnosed 18 months ago with Autism,10 years old and spends all day in his room playing his pc.We were told to allow this as its his window to the world, but over the last 2 months he seems to be getting worse.my sons autism is noticeable in the social side of life.I would love any help or advice in how to break the computer,school computer,bed,computer cycle. He just sits on his bed when we dont allow him pc time.He wont go out and play and spends very little time with the family as a family.On top of all this he has bad excema and when he gets stressed it flares up considerably (and due to his condition,if he doesnt get on his pc he gets stressed) I thank you in advance for any future help.

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  • Don't try to fight it. You'll be fighting a losing battle.

    Also, if you force him to do things he doesn't want, or like, to do then it will only cause him stress.

    That said, we, on the spectrum, usually respond well to 'reward motivation' (AKA 'bribery') - so for example, if you can establish a routine of hours when he can and can not play on his PC you can then say "If you do X, you can have an extra hour on your PC today", for example.

    Just make sure you always word it in a positive, not negative way - "If you don't do X, you won't get an extra hour on your PC", for example, would be 'punishment motivation', and, though the two statements are essentially the same, we tend to rebel against 'punishment motivation', or just get moody, and depressed, and so it just doesn't work.

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  • Don't try to fight it. You'll be fighting a losing battle.

    Also, if you force him to do things he doesn't want, or like, to do then it will only cause him stress.

    That said, we, on the spectrum, usually respond well to 'reward motivation' (AKA 'bribery') - so for example, if you can establish a routine of hours when he can and can not play on his PC you can then say "If you do X, you can have an extra hour on your PC today", for example.

    Just make sure you always word it in a positive, not negative way - "If you don't do X, you won't get an extra hour on your PC", for example, would be 'punishment motivation', and, though the two statements are essentially the same, we tend to rebel against 'punishment motivation', or just get moody, and depressed, and so it just doesn't work.

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