hi i have a 9yr old son who was finally diagnosed with autism at the beginning of april and he is finding it hard to deal with his anger i was wondering if anyone has any advice on how to help him control it i have tried advising him to count to 10 or walk away from the situation thats making him angry but he says he cant the anger takes over he doesnt know he has autism as this is another problem we are dealing with how n when to tell him any advice would be helpful thanks 
kjh said:hi i have a 9yr old son who was finally diagnosed with autism at the beginning of april and he is finding it hard to deal with his anger i was wondering if anyone has any advice on how to help him control it i have tried advising him to count to 10 or walk away from the situation thats making him angry but he says he cant the anger takes over he doesnt know he has autism as this is another problem we are dealing with how n when to tell him any advice would be helpful thanks
Hello kjh
My son is a bit younger than yours (he's 8) and he has had some problems with anger over the years. I found it helpful to keep a diary for a couple of weeks and write down every incident, what lead up to it and what the outcome was. It was a bit of a pain, but it did highlight some things that he found a bit too much (crowds, noisy places etc.) Then we were able to make a few changes, like avoiding crowded places where possible, which helped to keep his anxiety levels down. Trying to find out what triggers his anger may help to reduce the chances of it happening.
He may also be aware that he has problems and he is different from his peers, and could be confused as to why. That's where it may might help him to know about his diagnosis. There are books and leaflets you can get - the NAS have some - which would help you to explain it to him. If he is able to give his issues a name, it might help him to take control of it.
I hope that's helped in some way
Nicky x
kjh said:hi i have a 9yr old son who was finally diagnosed with autism at the beginning of april and he is finding it hard to deal with his anger i was wondering if anyone has any advice on how to help him control it i have tried advising him to count to 10 or walk away from the situation thats making him angry but he says he cant the anger takes over he doesnt know he has autism as this is another problem we are dealing with how n when to tell him any advice would be helpful thanks
Hello kjh
My son is a bit younger than yours (he's 8) and he has had some problems with anger over the years. I found it helpful to keep a diary for a couple of weeks and write down every incident, what lead up to it and what the outcome was. It was a bit of a pain, but it did highlight some things that he found a bit too much (crowds, noisy places etc.) Then we were able to make a few changes, like avoiding crowded places where possible, which helped to keep his anxiety levels down. Trying to find out what triggers his anger may help to reduce the chances of it happening.
He may also be aware that he has problems and he is different from his peers, and could be confused as to why. That's where it may might help him to know about his diagnosis. There are books and leaflets you can get - the NAS have some - which would help you to explain it to him. If he is able to give his issues a name, it might help him to take control of it.
I hope that's helped in some way
Nicky x
