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Feeling bad :-(

Jon

Hi,

I have been on this forum now for over a year. I used to look forwards to being on here - it was a support and I enjoyed the communication.

I don't feel the same way about it now. I don't want to make it personal but I got pretty bothered by the attitude of another member. It wasn't pleasant.

I am struggling with my return to work after 5 months off with stress/depression. I am struggling at home with the neighbours (noise :(). Life is just seeming very difficult right now. I don't have a place to recharge and situations that I was begining to manage are now seeming much harder.

I admit I find confrontation and negotiation hard and thats why I used to like coming on here - because it felt safe and people maybe understood.

The world is at odds with Aspergers. Its all about me changing and adapting to match peoples expectations. That does become a real strain. It is expected that I have to learn to be NT or at least act it.

Please don't respond to this if you are just going to criticise me - I can't handle that just now. I do feel better for getting this posted though.

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  • Jon, I know exactly how you feel as it happened to me on another forum.

    Aspies are prone to all the same human foibles and faults as NTs, and in fact, by our natures we can be worse at them than NTs due to traits like low empathy, bossiness, obsessiveness, wanting our own way and only seeing our own viewpoint.

    It came as a shock when it happened to me too, as I thought the one place I would be safe was amongst fellow Aspies.  Although I don't know what happened in your own situation and whether it was NT members of other Aspies of course.

    The best thing is to  take a time out and come back when the feelings have dulled a bit.

    It is difficult to think you have found your haven, the one place where you believe you won't suffer the same things you do in general society, and  then find out that this is not actually the case.

    Regarding neighbour's noise, I sympathise because I have this too.  It's very, very difficult living with this.

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  • Jon, I know exactly how you feel as it happened to me on another forum.

    Aspies are prone to all the same human foibles and faults as NTs, and in fact, by our natures we can be worse at them than NTs due to traits like low empathy, bossiness, obsessiveness, wanting our own way and only seeing our own viewpoint.

    It came as a shock when it happened to me too, as I thought the one place I would be safe was amongst fellow Aspies.  Although I don't know what happened in your own situation and whether it was NT members of other Aspies of course.

    The best thing is to  take a time out and come back when the feelings have dulled a bit.

    It is difficult to think you have found your haven, the one place where you believe you won't suffer the same things you do in general society, and  then find out that this is not actually the case.

    Regarding neighbour's noise, I sympathise because I have this too.  It's very, very difficult living with this.

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