Deleted User

I understand how these 'deleted user"s' feel.

I often want to leave this site because of what others do or say.  Even today I was upset because one of our moderators altered one of my posts.

I really hope I am not one of those people Robert..

I know that sharing my mind can be toxic so some people, even when I do it with the best of intentions. I've found it personally very helpful to study those who I find objectionable, over time.

Sometimes I find that my own strong aversion to certain types, can become overwhelming, if I let it, but as I point out in my "forum survival guide" post, taking a break if you feel strong emotion to some letters on your computer monitor is exactly the sane and beneficial thing to do.

An analogy that you may find helpful is comparing the information superhighway to the open road when seen as a driver. You come across people who's driving behaviour is so insane, and careless that it enrages you. Then one day, whilst over worked or distracted or simply due to a miscalculation despite being an "Ace Driver" you pull out in front of someone on an island, and an accident is only avoided by their quick reactions (he was so "on the ball" he even found time to lean on his horn button!) My point is, that often people who are behaving in ways that I find totally objectionable, may be doing it by accident, and the offence inflicted and felt by was really not intended as malevolently or carelessly as it appears.

This is a huge learning experience both good and bad, and I'd just say, keep the good, and let the 5hi7 pass by you.

But don't quit.  I've read your posts and you do have a mind of your own. Why keep it to yourself. The key really is to be kind and gentle with the idiots (as you perceive them)

If you have a "punchy" side, and would like to engage in strong argument either to let off steam or actually hone your skills at fighting back when faced with "bullying by words" there are "fight clubs" around the internet where it is internally acceptable to do that, (greater society labels them "cesspools of hatred", but then it currently applies the "hate" label to an awful lot of things...) and this forum is thankfully not such a place, and effort to make it so is quickly shut down.

But some posts are still very objectionable. Most are not however, and some of you are absolutely lovely people who based on what you write, I dearly wish I could take home with me... (Yeah I'm sure we'd regret it "stat"! but it's the thought that counts, some people say.

I really hope I am not one of those people Robert..

I know that sharing my mind can be toxic so some people, even when I do it with the best of intentions. I've found it personally very helpful to study those who I find objectionable, over time.

Sometimes I find that my own strong aversion to certain types, can become overwhelming, if I let it, but as I point out in my "forum survival guide" post, taking a break if you feel strong emotion to some letters on your computer monitor is exactly the sane and beneficial thing to do.

An analogy that you may find helpful is comparing the information superhighway to the open road when seen as a driver. You come across people who's driving behaviour is so insane, and careless that it enrages you. Then one day, whilst over worked or distracted or simply due to a miscalculation despite being an "Ace Driver" you pull out in front of someone on an island, and an accident is only avoided by their quick reactions (he was so "on the ball" he even found time to lean on his horn button!) My point is, that often people who are behaving in ways that I find totally objectionable, may be doing it by accident, and the offence inflicted and felt by was really not intended as malevolently or carelessly as it appears.

This is a huge learning experience both good and bad, and I'd just say, keep the good, and let the 5hi7 pass by you.

But don't quit.  I've read your posts and you do have a mind of your own. Why keep it to yourself. The key really is to be kind and gentle with the idiots (as you perceive them)

If you have a "punchy" side, and would like to engage in strong argument either to let off steam or actually hone your skills at fighting back when faced with "bullying by words" there are "fight clubs" around the internet where it is internally acceptable to do that, (greater society labels them "cesspools of hatred", but then it currently applies the "hate" label to an awful lot of things...) and this forum is thankfully not such a place, and effort to make it so is quickly shut down.

But some posts are still very objectionable. Most are not however, and some of you are absolutely lovely people who based on what you write, I dearly wish I could take home with me... (Yeah I'm sure we'd regret it "stat"! but it's the thought that counts, some people say.