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My support worker quit...

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She text me randomly last week saying 'I'm pregnant and can not continue to support you' and basically quit work altogether. Her boss was furious and so was my social worker because she shouldn't have told me and it should have been handled better. I'm gutted because I don't trust easy and worked with her every week for 7 months, we had plans to do things like going to the to important things like to get me to therapy I'd waited ages for that is 70 miles away and help me into supported employment. We have a lot in common and were more like friends. I don't know where to go from here I feel all alone again I don't know if I could trust a new support worker after this. At the moment I don't want to consider it but I'm feeling the effects of lack of social contact. 

Any advice? 

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  • support workers are not supposed to e more like a friend. They are supporting you as a professional to be more independent and self reliant. I have found the best relationships are professional ones, ones where boundaries are clearly know by both parties. Maintaining some distance from a client I support enables me to do my job better and enables the client to be empowered wihout having unrealstic expectations of someone while the are trying to do their job. I dont want to be telephoned in the middle of the night, resented for having my own private life, and made to feel I owe the client something. All these things have happened to me becuse I unwittingly allowed myself to end up more like their friend. I had verbal abuse and controlling behaviour./because professional respect had eroded.

    So, no, support workers are meant to be friendly but they are not obliged or expected to be your friend. I was a nurse previously and didnt feel I had to be my patients friend although I was friendly. It is a paid job. 

    A support worker owes you respect and professionalism and compassion and courtesy and....support.

    She is moving on with her life and you should with yours. Draw a line under it and get another support worker but seriously consider what I have said.

    Anon

    Support Worker 

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  • support workers are not supposed to e more like a friend. They are supporting you as a professional to be more independent and self reliant. I have found the best relationships are professional ones, ones where boundaries are clearly know by both parties. Maintaining some distance from a client I support enables me to do my job better and enables the client to be empowered wihout having unrealstic expectations of someone while the are trying to do their job. I dont want to be telephoned in the middle of the night, resented for having my own private life, and made to feel I owe the client something. All these things have happened to me becuse I unwittingly allowed myself to end up more like their friend. I had verbal abuse and controlling behaviour./because professional respect had eroded.

    So, no, support workers are meant to be friendly but they are not obliged or expected to be your friend. I was a nurse previously and didnt feel I had to be my patients friend although I was friendly. It is a paid job. 

    A support worker owes you respect and professionalism and compassion and courtesy and....support.

    She is moving on with her life and you should with yours. Draw a line under it and get another support worker but seriously consider what I have said.

    Anon

    Support Worker 

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