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As and having children

Jon

I know that I don't want children. I am in a relationship and my partner is now OK with this.

I wondered what other people on the spectrum thought about having children. Would they like to have them? For myself I find the whole idea totally crazy - I just don't have that feeling to want them. I can only see negatives.

Thoughts?

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  • Noetic said:

    and I do sometimes get sad seeing other people in "normal" relationships somehow juggling life, social life, their household, work, money and children like it's easy or comes naturally to them. 

    I am not sure i am sad but I certainly see a difference in the ease that some people seem to juggle lives that would totally faze me. 

    It makes me a bit sad when people bring babies into work and I think "Gosh, what I need is a wife, maybe then I'd be able to have this, too" (I am female myself, but wives seem to be how many AS men manage to have a family and a bit of a social life)

    Certainly having the support of a wife (husband, friend or partner) is to be valued. Hopefully it is a reciprocal relatoinship where strenghts and weaknesses of each person are combined.  


    I am however also aware that children are an unpredictable thing, noisy and demanding of attention, which upsets my routine and means you lose out on time to organise yourself and enjoy your interests. 

    I agree and really think it is responsible to be realistic about what having a child would entail. I know I would struggle and also I am not prepared to invest the time that would be needed to bring up a child. for me it is the responsible thing not to have a child.

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  • Noetic said:

    and I do sometimes get sad seeing other people in "normal" relationships somehow juggling life, social life, their household, work, money and children like it's easy or comes naturally to them. 

    I am not sure i am sad but I certainly see a difference in the ease that some people seem to juggle lives that would totally faze me. 

    It makes me a bit sad when people bring babies into work and I think "Gosh, what I need is a wife, maybe then I'd be able to have this, too" (I am female myself, but wives seem to be how many AS men manage to have a family and a bit of a social life)

    Certainly having the support of a wife (husband, friend or partner) is to be valued. Hopefully it is a reciprocal relatoinship where strenghts and weaknesses of each person are combined.  


    I am however also aware that children are an unpredictable thing, noisy and demanding of attention, which upsets my routine and means you lose out on time to organise yourself and enjoy your interests. 

    I agree and really think it is responsible to be realistic about what having a child would entail. I know I would struggle and also I am not prepared to invest the time that would be needed to bring up a child. for me it is the responsible thing not to have a child.

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