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As and having children

Jon

I know that I don't want children. I am in a relationship and my partner is now OK with this.

I wondered what other people on the spectrum thought about having children. Would they like to have them? For myself I find the whole idea totally crazy - I just don't have that feeling to want them. I can only see negatives.

Thoughts?

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  • Jon, I don't see what the problem is ? quote"I would make a poor parent purely on the basis that I don't want children...".. why bring AS into it ? I have aspergers and have two boys, if anything my Aspergers has played a good parental role. I don't see the negative in this, however I could understand a reservation, but this is only human with the unknown. Aspergers may be a factor in the decision but please do not base any decision fully on your aspergers. Normally, aspergers people marry partners who are well organised so there is two parents in the family who are well equiped to cope.

    I think what I am trying too express, is,, don't make aspergers a condition in your decision making too have a family or not. Could I go one more and say,, if you love your partner have a family, you will be richer for it long-term but at your age, you may too be too old and set in your own ways. Maybe your partner should seek another mate. As  you expressed, your partner is okay with it NOW. There should not be an okay with it now in a true relationship of love.

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  • Jon, I don't see what the problem is ? quote"I would make a poor parent purely on the basis that I don't want children...".. why bring AS into it ? I have aspergers and have two boys, if anything my Aspergers has played a good parental role. I don't see the negative in this, however I could understand a reservation, but this is only human with the unknown. Aspergers may be a factor in the decision but please do not base any decision fully on your aspergers. Normally, aspergers people marry partners who are well organised so there is two parents in the family who are well equiped to cope.

    I think what I am trying too express, is,, don't make aspergers a condition in your decision making too have a family or not. Could I go one more and say,, if you love your partner have a family, you will be richer for it long-term but at your age, you may too be too old and set in your own ways. Maybe your partner should seek another mate. As  you expressed, your partner is okay with it NOW. There should not be an okay with it now in a true relationship of love.

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