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So.... Is there any other Aspies spending time home alone on a Saturday?

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Well.. I am. It's annoying because when I was with my friends last week, I felt I would of rather been alone so I actually had time to do everything I wanted to do.

And now that I'm alone, I do realy enjoy it but the only problem is, I'm still feeling depressed or worried about something. So yeah, it kind of is really awkward because I stil just feel stressed either way, but overall I do prefer to be alone though like now because I;m enjoying it more. When I was with my friends last week, I also got really annoyed when we're walking together because my mate and his girlfriend walked on ahead without me, then the other 2 who are boys who are also my mates, I got annoyed with them as well because it seemed like because I said something to defend myself a few hours ago to get my point accross, they seemed to team up against me leaving me feeling isolated, 2 of them were walking together behind me and the other 2 were walking together in front of me.

My best mate was really talkative with me and because he has a girlfriend now to join us going everywhere on Saturdays (we all knew eachother before they became in a relationship at first) ever since they are now together, he doesn't even walk with the group anymore. So yeah, so much for close friends, I'm basically annoyed with all of them... and that is 4 friends I hang out with.

  • Energy (NJ) said:

    Also, does anyone ever feel lonely, instantly when sociallising finishes? Like, you just don't enjoy me-time at all? Maybe I don't have aspies afterall!

    Yes.

    But it's not because I don't enjoy being by myself (I do).

    However, I also need to be, but never feel quite, part of a group, and so when a social occasion comes to an end I, more often than not, feel down because I still feel like an outsider.

  • You could be an extroverted  person with aspergers!!Smile

  • Also, does anyone ever feel lonely, instantly when sociallising finishes? Like, you just don't enjoy me-time at all? Maybe I don't have aspies afterall!

  • Hi yeah i often feel lonely but I never did before I made (then parted from) my firest ever friend at primary school.
    A studio flat is often the trickiest type of accomodation to sociallise in because its very small, you dont even see neighbours very often and anyone you do mix with is for professional reasons only.
    I tried joining an archery club but despite having a social group, I don't have any (reliable) close friends who I can keep in touch face-to-face with, or just to chat properly on skype once a week.
    Does anyone else feel lonely even when they keep really busy all day every day? 

  • Groups mean Beer and small talk..  no thank you. Better with music, a book or a computer.  

    Are you really alone or an outsider ? maybe that is just a concept of society to produce society,, I am happy living in the forest with grendal Laughing Nice and quiet and full of interesting unexpected life.

  • Bit different for me at the other end of the timescale (retired) but just for comparison, if it helps, I'm quite happy with the option of being home-alone or out and about.

    But I don't tend to have "friends" outside of close family, just people I know to speak to. It must be very difficult being young and finding it hard to connect with contemporaries.

    I'm trying to think back to then, and am pretty certain my outlook was much the same as now. I'm quite content with my own company and can find things to do to keep occupied. But I do get to feel I've got to get out if I'm starting to ruminate and cogitate on things that are getting me tense or stressed. That could mean walking or going where there's people around even if I'm more of an observer.

    I've always tried to get out and circulate rather than stay indoors, even if my kind of circulation isn't "social" in the sense most NTs might understand. So I wont head for a social group, but I might go to places where other people are socially engaged and be marginally involved, and around where things are happening.

    This Saturday is Civic Pride day, though it passes without much going on as far as I can tell. But there was somewhere I went where a series of architectural images were being shown, with people coming and going. I joined in some of the discussions and reminiscences but left when I felt I wasn't likely to get much further involved.

    I then went to a cafe for some lunch, where having finished I gave up my table to someone else and briefly chatted with them. I spoke to some people in the street and some people in shops.

    That's enough socialisation for me. Went home about 3pm, sat outside in the sunn reading a book, dined alone, watched telly, played on computer a while. Suits me.

  • meeeeeeee!! I went out for a little while because I wanted a mcdonalds but that's it...