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I feel like an alien

autisticAlienfairy

I just moved into new apartments and I have a neighbor who lives above me. Everytime I walk out my back door to take my dog out, she's on her patio and just starts talking to me.  I hate being autistic because I think she's trying to be nice, but It just startles and overwhelms the crap out of me. Now I just have an another reason to stay inside. I wish I could make friends "naturally" but it's feels forced and overwhelming. I wish I knew how to act like them

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  • Best thing is to go out without worrying about speaking and then you might be able to say things more easily, but also ready yourself before you go out that she might be there so not startled, plus try and prepare things to say, about the weather, your dog, little jokes can help.  You might not manage much more but be OK with that, autistic people can't always find the words, there is also social anxiety which can affect people which is a fear of being judged for how we speak or what we say, you might want to work out if you have thoughts about what people might think of you. 

    You can try acting like them but if you have difficulty finding the words to keep conversations going it gets awkward, though you can always then just say you have to go, best to slink off before it gets embarrassing.

    Work on feeling OK as you are, and that you want to work on it, as that will reduce anxiety and make it easer, whereas worrying and avoiding increase anxiety and make life more difficult.    

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  • Best thing is to go out without worrying about speaking and then you might be able to say things more easily, but also ready yourself before you go out that she might be there so not startled, plus try and prepare things to say, about the weather, your dog, little jokes can help.  You might not manage much more but be OK with that, autistic people can't always find the words, there is also social anxiety which can affect people which is a fear of being judged for how we speak or what we say, you might want to work out if you have thoughts about what people might think of you. 

    You can try acting like them but if you have difficulty finding the words to keep conversations going it gets awkward, though you can always then just say you have to go, best to slink off before it gets embarrassing.

    Work on feeling OK as you are, and that you want to work on it, as that will reduce anxiety and make it easer, whereas worrying and avoiding increase anxiety and make life more difficult.    

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