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Emotional day

Soopy05

I am going through pre assessment and now being referred to neuro diverse assessment team via my employers. After a very long time I raised my thoughts with my line manager in recent months and was met with a positive and supportive response. Today I’ve had a review meeting with my line manager and more senior person in the organisation to discuss what’s going on. Again I’ve had much positive feedback however it has been shared with me their observations of my approach to certain situations, which I found extremely painful to hear. From their perspective they feel it makes sense and more than happy to help and support me however in that moment it felt so painful to hear from someone else’s perspective. I have issues with justice and right and wrong and it was pointed out that I struggle to let go of an issue. I know they’re right but hurt so much to hear. I’m finding this process emotional, painful but also having so many penny drop moments. The process of discovery is amazing. I wondered if any other people had feedback from others and how they felt about that ? Thank you in advance 

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  • Soopy05 said:
    I have issues with justice and right and wrong

    I do too... it has caused me problems all my life. Why are we made to feel as though this is a bad thing though? Shouldn't it be a good thing? It only creates a problem when other people don't care about what is right and wrong, and when they are indifferent to injustice. Do you feel as though you find it hard to "let go of an issue and move on" because you find it difficult to accept/ignore injustice?

    Regarding feedback from others, yes I have had some, and found it has reduced my confidence (which I did not have much of to begin with) as I saw from an outside perspective how I might come across to others, how my ways of interacting with people might be unusual and how often I seem to "miss the point". I can't think of an example right at this moment, but it is only in recent years, since living with somebody for the first time, that I have had this type of feedback and it has made me more self conscious.

    It is wonderful that the people at your work are being so supportive though.

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  • Soopy05 said:
    I have issues with justice and right and wrong

    I do too... it has caused me problems all my life. Why are we made to feel as though this is a bad thing though? Shouldn't it be a good thing? It only creates a problem when other people don't care about what is right and wrong, and when they are indifferent to injustice. Do you feel as though you find it hard to "let go of an issue and move on" because you find it difficult to accept/ignore injustice?

    Regarding feedback from others, yes I have had some, and found it has reduced my confidence (which I did not have much of to begin with) as I saw from an outside perspective how I might come across to others, how my ways of interacting with people might be unusual and how often I seem to "miss the point". I can't think of an example right at this moment, but it is only in recent years, since living with somebody for the first time, that I have had this type of feedback and it has made me more self conscious.

    It is wonderful that the people at your work are being so supportive though.

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  • in reply to NAS79256

    Hi sorry to hear that but I do feel similar. Firstly yes I absolutely struggled to let go, I’m like a dog with a bone. I’m beginning to wonder if it’s partly the issues of justice of my need for it to be wrapped up and ended and boxed off ? It’s strange I’m viewing things in a different light and it’s uncomfortable.

    yesterday after receiving feedback which I must say was incredibly sensitive and kind, I felt extremely deflated and vulnerable and I was still tearful today. I do trust my boss and feel they’re genuine and want to support me and in some way protect me which is humbling for me. In fairness I work in social care so I’d like to think I’m in the right place.

    I do feel I’m doubting and questioning myself, checking what I thinking , feeling and why almost like I don’t trust myself to make a mistake, which in itself is very painful for me to mess up.