Hi everyone,
Sometimes it bothers me that, in spite of having Asperger's, I don't fit the commonly thought of Aspie characteristic of being withdrawn, quiet and having obvious social anxiety. Instead, my anxiety causes me to come across as affected, loud, brash, "manic", too bubbly, and sometimes even a bit arrogant. People describe me as a "lovie" and a "drama queen" (even though I am a useless actress, much to my despair) and these aren't characteristics of the condition at all.
It bothers me because, if I was withdrawn and expressed my anxiety by closing up, maybe people would be more sympathetic to what I go through. Many people are actually very unsympathetic, and I can't help but feel it's because I'm such a dislikable, dishonest person. I know the only way to fix it is to act more like myself, but I can't seem to do that - especially around my peers, I get scared into acting like the persona I have created. And this is also not an Aspie characteristic...don't Aspies always act like themselves, because they're so honest they don't see the point in acting like anyone else?
It really does upset me because I feel like I'm locked up and physically cannot act like myself, but also know that the persona I have created is not an attractive one.
Any advice?
Thanks for reading. I know it's silly.
Liv x