Losing at a game.

How can I help my grandson he has Adhd, autism, SPD and may have Odd and if he loses at a game he has a major breakdown. He plays for a Sunday football team and when he loses he kicks off(not all the time) this can be very severe. It can include him swearing at his manager or other players, hitting the ground, screaming, shouting and just generally ignore adult interventions. We have tried everything we can to help him but nothing is working. He is an excellent footballer with real passion for the game. At the minute his manage will only let him train due to his really bad behaviour at a tournament where he lost to another team from his actual club. Please help we are out of ideas. 

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  • I have a adhd 8yr old boy. Sweet jeez it’s hardwork.  

    I tend to remind him a lot of what he has..  I have 5 children so it’s mind controlling.. right guys who is playing Fortnite/Minecraft later?  Or any naughty business and I swear to god you’ll have cottage pie for tea and so and so will have domino’s..  I read my son like a book and it’s all about reminding him what’s at home before the issue revolves.

    bare in mind I’m autistic. I maybe wording this wrong. Also my son likes being told he’s been good so far today. He also likes being invited to help me.. one of my hobbies is tools. So he thrives off helping dad. My point is, you need an advantage point but it needs to come in effect before the tantrum.. 

    there is also joining in, ask him what’s up and agree.. call the other team a few childish names. I have 5 kids oldest nearly 10. I go with the flow and get quicker results, mum flips her lid and it goes on past midnight. 

    sorry for the essay

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  • I have a adhd 8yr old boy. Sweet jeez it’s hardwork.  

    I tend to remind him a lot of what he has..  I have 5 children so it’s mind controlling.. right guys who is playing Fortnite/Minecraft later?  Or any naughty business and I swear to god you’ll have cottage pie for tea and so and so will have domino’s..  I read my son like a book and it’s all about reminding him what’s at home before the issue revolves.

    bare in mind I’m autistic. I maybe wording this wrong. Also my son likes being told he’s been good so far today. He also likes being invited to help me.. one of my hobbies is tools. So he thrives off helping dad. My point is, you need an advantage point but it needs to come in effect before the tantrum.. 

    there is also joining in, ask him what’s up and agree.. call the other team a few childish names. I have 5 kids oldest nearly 10. I go with the flow and get quicker results, mum flips her lid and it goes on past midnight. 

    sorry for the essay

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