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Verbal abuse and disrespect from my daughter

Suzi

My 9 year old has High functioning autism and is angry most of the time. She speaks to me like dirt on most occasions especially if she doesn't get her own way.

She will openly call me and her father and brother a' ***'  she is rude, and vulgar to the point I don't want to take her anywhere.

Can anyone relate and give me some advice on handling this behaviour? I miss having a loving relationship with my child because she shows me nothing but disrespect and anger. I continue to show her love and patience and understand. I have set boundaries and consequences but they do not work. 

I've tried so many strategies and am learning more about autism every day.

I don't understand why she feels the need to treat me so badly most of the time?

I feel completely helpless and that I'm failing her 

Any help/ anyone in similar situation I would love to hear from you 

Thanks 

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  • I always give the same advice, Try not to take this behaviour personally. It seems that something is bothering your daughter and she doesn’t know how to deal with it, and probably doesn’t even know what it is yet. There’s little likelihood of her telling you if she doesn’t realise what is winding her up.

    I don’t know if she had an avoidant personality, but a lot of Autistic people are still demand avoidant, even without the demand avoidant profile type. I know I am. I know my daughter is. Asking and telling them needs to be in a certain way or all hell can break loose. I’m sure there’s a video on YouTube, but I’m not sure if it’s still a available or even if it’s still free. It was posted by autismandadhd.org who might be of help to you.

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