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Managing a house move for an adult with Aspergers

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I need help please, my 27 year old son has Aspergers and can't come to terms with me moving house.  He sees it as me selling his bedroom and I don't know how to make it easier for him.  My husband and I have lived in this house for 28 years and had 3 sons, the middle one is 27 and moved out 2 years ago but still sees his bedroom here as his.

I am at a loss as to how to help him come to terms with the fact that we are moving, we need to move to release money so that we can retire, he will have a bedroom in our new

home.  He is just so very upset about it and this is upsetting my husband and I too.  

Any hints, tips or resources are much appreciated...

Thanks 

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  • Has he seen the place you're moving to and the space he will be in? We can be picture-thinkers so much that once a thing is envisioned it can be difficult to let go of that image. This can be useful for transition. Before my last move, I was able to spend time thinking abut the space I would move into and where I'd put my desk. 

    If it's possible for him to see the place in person and begin to envision himself there, and also maybe make plans about the garden or other possibilities with the new space, that will help. 

  • in reply to JuniperFromGallifrey
    JuniperFromGallifrey said:
    Before my last move, I was able to spend time thinking abut the space I would move into and where I'd put my desk. 

    I did much the same, only I had as long as I needed to move out, so I regularly went down to the new place just to get the feel for the atmosphere there, then I also started pondering where everything would go and what would be needed, and just got all the decorating and everything done entirely at my own leisure.

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