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Managing a house move for an adult with Aspergers

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I need help please, my 27 year old son has Aspergers and can't come to terms with me moving house.  He sees it as me selling his bedroom and I don't know how to make it easier for him.  My husband and I have lived in this house for 28 years and had 3 sons, the middle one is 27 and moved out 2 years ago but still sees his bedroom here as his.

I am at a loss as to how to help him come to terms with the fact that we are moving, we need to move to release money so that we can retire, he will have a bedroom in our new

home.  He is just so very upset about it and this is upsetting my husband and I too.  

Any hints, tips or resources are much appreciated...

Thanks 

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  • Change is difficult for autistic people, and changing home can be really difficult if stayed long in one place.

    You can only focus on showing him that the new house will have a room for him, and talk now about what he can put in this room later.  Visit the house and room if possible so its not a big unknown thing, and suggest what might go where.

    You have to move home, and he is going to have to process it all and have difficulties with it but minimising anxiety and emotions are important.  Don't talk about memories, or being sad to leave, talk about happy future things.

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  • Change is difficult for autistic people, and changing home can be really difficult if stayed long in one place.

    You can only focus on showing him that the new house will have a room for him, and talk now about what he can put in this room later.  Visit the house and room if possible so its not a big unknown thing, and suggest what might go where.

    You have to move home, and he is going to have to process it all and have difficulties with it but minimising anxiety and emotions are important.  Don't talk about memories, or being sad to leave, talk about happy future things.

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