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Struggling with things breaking or getting damaged

sphynx

I have got upset about things breaking or getting damaged from when I was very little. Early on this would even apply to seemingly insignificant things - I would cry every time someone broke a plate or a glass. It’s changed now in that I’m only really affected by damage to things I’m attached to. But as well as actual damage, I also worry a lot about possible (even if unlikely) damage. For example, earlier this evening I dropped one of my stainless steel baoding balls on a tile floor. The steel is apparently high quality and very durable. I’m blind so have to rely mostly on my sense of touch to detect damage, and don’t notice any here. I also asked my mum if she could see any. She said she couldn’t, But I’m not sure she would tell me if she could, as she knows I would be very upset. Despite all the available evidence, I’m still really worried about it, I’m reluctant to use the balls until I’m absolutely sure they are in the same condition they were in before the drop.

I wonder if anyone can relate to any of this?

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  • Childhood experiences can stick and be life long, adults are the beliefs and habits formed through childhood unless replaced with more mature ones.

    You believe that its really sad when things break, which is fine for really precious things, but not really appropriate for everyday things.  Next time something breaks, thing something that's not really emotional - like "oh, that's a shame" or "damn".  You could always break something on purpose and practice those thoughts.

    Also, don't overthink things - reassure yourself that the balls are fine, think things like 'they seem fine to me' and just use them even if anxious or unsure because they should be fine.  If you did later find damage then just see it as unfortunate, and not the end of the world - you might still be able to use them, or if they no longer feel right then replacing them makes sense.

    The tile might have fractured or broke when the ball hit, rather than the ball being damaged.

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  • Childhood experiences can stick and be life long, adults are the beliefs and habits formed through childhood unless replaced with more mature ones.

    You believe that its really sad when things break, which is fine for really precious things, but not really appropriate for everyday things.  Next time something breaks, thing something that's not really emotional - like "oh, that's a shame" or "damn".  You could always break something on purpose and practice those thoughts.

    Also, don't overthink things - reassure yourself that the balls are fine, think things like 'they seem fine to me' and just use them even if anxious or unsure because they should be fine.  If you did later find damage then just see it as unfortunate, and not the end of the world - you might still be able to use them, or if they no longer feel right then replacing them makes sense.

    The tile might have fractured or broke when the ball hit, rather than the ball being damaged.

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