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Grief

Sian

Hi my name is Sian and I'm autistic, I have been since I was born and I was officially diagnosed when I was 4. The subject matter is something that has been playing on my mind recently and I hope for some reassurance. I'm just really hoping I'm not the only one. I have recently lost my grandmother, she died in June 2021. I was sad on the day of her death and I was sad at the funeral. But afterwards it's like I've skipped all the stages of grief and gone right to acceptance, it feels like I've got over it already, whereas others in my family are still struggling. It's not that I didn't love her any less but that's what it feels like to me. Please tell me this is normal for autism, I don't want to feel like a heartless robot.

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  • I’m the same, it depends on who the person is, how old they are, if they were unwell etc I was more upset to hear that my aunt had terminal cancer than when she died because I knew that was going to happen. It wasn’t a shock. One of my Nans had very severe dementia and was in a home for a long time (as well as being incredibly elderly) so I wasn’t sad when she passed either. I was very close to my Grandad I was sad the night he passed away and cried at the funeral but he was old, in pain and ready to go he spoke with me a lot about it because others got upset. But on the other hand losing my Dad at a young age was pretty devastating but I was able to go back to school quite quickly and I actually preferred that as earlier that year a girl had a long time off when her brother was killed in an accident and people were really staring when she finally came back and I didn’t want the same done to me

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  • I’m the same, it depends on who the person is, how old they are, if they were unwell etc I was more upset to hear that my aunt had terminal cancer than when she died because I knew that was going to happen. It wasn’t a shock. One of my Nans had very severe dementia and was in a home for a long time (as well as being incredibly elderly) so I wasn’t sad when she passed either. I was very close to my Grandad I was sad the night he passed away and cried at the funeral but he was old, in pain and ready to go he spoke with me a lot about it because others got upset. But on the other hand losing my Dad at a young age was pretty devastating but I was able to go back to school quite quickly and I actually preferred that as earlier that year a girl had a long time off when her brother was killed in an accident and people were really staring when she finally came back and I didn’t want the same done to me

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