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Grief

Sian

Hi my name is Sian and I'm autistic, I have been since I was born and I was officially diagnosed when I was 4. The subject matter is something that has been playing on my mind recently and I hope for some reassurance. I'm just really hoping I'm not the only one. I have recently lost my grandmother, she died in June 2021. I was sad on the day of her death and I was sad at the funeral. But afterwards it's like I've skipped all the stages of grief and gone right to acceptance, it feels like I've got over it already, whereas others in my family are still struggling. It's not that I didn't love her any less but that's what it feels like to me. Please tell me this is normal for autism, I don't want to feel like a heartless robot.

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  • Sian, the feeling that you've described is familiar to me. I find that whenever something very bad happens, such as the death of a loved one, my emotional response is flat at the time, with confused and indirect ill effects afterwards,

    You describe loving your grandmother, then being worried about your reaction to her death. The inference about your ability to care for others is clear to me from these two features of your behaviour.

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  • Sian, the feeling that you've described is familiar to me. I find that whenever something very bad happens, such as the death of a loved one, my emotional response is flat at the time, with confused and indirect ill effects afterwards,

    You describe loving your grandmother, then being worried about your reaction to her death. The inference about your ability to care for others is clear to me from these two features of your behaviour.

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