• Replies 8 replies
  • Subscribers 35 subscribers
  • Views 1412 views
  • Users 0 members are here
Options
Related
Hints and tips
  • To quote someone's message, first select/highlight the relevant text, and then use the Quote button that appears
  • To "mention" someone, type @ followed by the start of the forum name, and choose from the list; that person will get a notification of being mentioned

Grief

Sian

Hi my name is Sian and I'm autistic, I have been since I was born and I was officially diagnosed when I was 4. The subject matter is something that has been playing on my mind recently and I hope for some reassurance. I'm just really hoping I'm not the only one. I have recently lost my grandmother, she died in June 2021. I was sad on the day of her death and I was sad at the funeral. But afterwards it's like I've skipped all the stages of grief and gone right to acceptance, it feels like I've got over it already, whereas others in my family are still struggling. It's not that I didn't love her any less but that's what it feels like to me. Please tell me this is normal for autism, I don't want to feel like a heartless robot.

Parents

  • Hi, please don't worry about the way you are processing the loss of your Grandmother. It is very normal for an Autistic person to experience greef that little bit differently and I understand what you have said. Nothing your feeling is heartless and I would probably be the same if I was in your position. Sorry that you have been worrying about this but it is normal, your just processing your emotions differently like I would aswell. The same happened to me when my Great Grandfather died in around April 2021 and I wasn't sure how to react or if I reacted at all but I loved him very much. You shouldn't make yourself feel bad about the way you are processing this situation, it's actually good that you haven't been hit as deeply or for as long as your other family members and it's not because you are heartless.

    Hope some of this helped but there will be many people like you looking for the same answers and feeling the same as you when it is very normal. Greif is a difficult and horrible thing to overcome but it's the little things we remember and the memories aswell and for an Autistic person, we experience these things in different ways.

    :] 

  • in reply to NAS77030

    I don't know what to say...thank you

Reply Children
No Data