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Grief

Sian

Hi my name is Sian and I'm autistic, I have been since I was born and I was officially diagnosed when I was 4. The subject matter is something that has been playing on my mind recently and I hope for some reassurance. I'm just really hoping I'm not the only one. I have recently lost my grandmother, she died in June 2021. I was sad on the day of her death and I was sad at the funeral. But afterwards it's like I've skipped all the stages of grief and gone right to acceptance, it feels like I've got over it already, whereas others in my family are still struggling. It's not that I didn't love her any less but that's what it feels like to me. Please tell me this is normal for autism, I don't want to feel like a heartless robot.

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  • I think it might be normal for autism - I was not especially upset by the loss of either of my paternal grandparents, even though I was close to them. My father, who is not diagnosed but is most definitely on the spectrum also, was equally stoic over their deaths. I found my maternal grandfather's death harder to deal with, but that, I think, was more anger over the circumstances of it (Covid).

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  • I think it might be normal for autism - I was not especially upset by the loss of either of my paternal grandparents, even though I was close to them. My father, who is not diagnosed but is most definitely on the spectrum also, was equally stoic over their deaths. I found my maternal grandfather's death harder to deal with, but that, I think, was more anger over the circumstances of it (Covid).

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