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i'm torn apart

smurfette

yesterday we went out. It was abetter idea than being trapped at home again with ateenage girl desperate to do. Bad , bad choice. She was rude foul mouthed and aggresive. Or she was distraught and sobbing. My partner is now leaving because I let myself be ditacted too by a child. she hates him and me because I do what he wants. I try to please everyone and I dont who who I am anymore.

I do know I am soon going to be on my own. I am facing losing our house. The future beckons, the kids gone. My son, daughter will be adults as well equipped for the world as I could do.She will survive. she is strong. I dont know if I will. 15 years living with Aspergers has taken its toll.

An alcoholic ex. a 16 yr old son who spends as much time away from us as he can, a partner leaving. Friends that have disappeared along the way.

My future lies ahead. I cant see anything except lonliness, more of the desolute lonliness i live with every day.

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  • my heart goes out to you, it is very sad you are feeling this way but please do not feel you are all alone.  I can't say i experience the same with my son at home but due to issues at school it does fall out into home and family life.  I understand how it effects relationships etc as my marriage has gone through the works lately over issues on how my hubbie and i agree on how things should be done which nearly led to a break up so i know how hard that can be. When we have a child with any disability the lines of communication need to be kept open, keep talking.

    If you are going to be alone as your children are leaving the nest then possibly look to joining a club or find a hobby that is just for you.  We as parents need to take time out to also look after ourselves to keep our sanity.

    Keep smiling, Shonagh x

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  • my heart goes out to you, it is very sad you are feeling this way but please do not feel you are all alone.  I can't say i experience the same with my son at home but due to issues at school it does fall out into home and family life.  I understand how it effects relationships etc as my marriage has gone through the works lately over issues on how my hubbie and i agree on how things should be done which nearly led to a break up so i know how hard that can be. When we have a child with any disability the lines of communication need to be kept open, keep talking.

    If you are going to be alone as your children are leaving the nest then possibly look to joining a club or find a hobby that is just for you.  We as parents need to take time out to also look after ourselves to keep our sanity.

    Keep smiling, Shonagh x

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