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you can't the blame aspergers

peter0003

Hi All,  

       There is a lot of other things about my asperger's I don't understand and how to get the message across to those people who need to know that I mean no harm when I talk to them.  Being unemployed does not help but I volunteer to do work for my church espeically in the grounds/garden and have had problems with other members of the church in what I have said to upset them. And then I'm told that I cannot blame it  on being one with aspergers, If not why not? It is the only reason I could give for the situation. I may not know what to say or not say, or even  when to  shut up.

        And my sister in law is a pain, she's a methodist minister and it she thinks she knows everything to with austism. Just because her friends son has autism she thinks she knows best for me and then thinks i'm stupid most of the time.  I  am 51 years old, have a house, can drive , use a PC & have problems with saving  money  I try to forget about her nagging.   any HELP would help.

Yours Peter0003

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  • I wanted to follow through with another angle on my last message. I do wonder if social stories and other support devices miss a trick.

    It may be useful to tell people on the spectrum what messages other people send each other with their eyes and with facial expressions. I'm not sure it actually make it any easier to read this information in other people in reality.

    More importantly it doesn't help aspies generate the necessary eye movements and facial expression to return confirming or denying messages.

    I think the obsession with Social Stories does a lot of harm because it isn't helping people on the spectrum avoid social blunders.

    Indeed it is just reinforcing insecurity and low self esteem. Maybe this should be a thread in its own right, but do people on the spectrum feel Social Stories and like methods helped them or made things worse?

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  • I wanted to follow through with another angle on my last message. I do wonder if social stories and other support devices miss a trick.

    It may be useful to tell people on the spectrum what messages other people send each other with their eyes and with facial expressions. I'm not sure it actually make it any easier to read this information in other people in reality.

    More importantly it doesn't help aspies generate the necessary eye movements and facial expression to return confirming or denying messages.

    I think the obsession with Social Stories does a lot of harm because it isn't helping people on the spectrum avoid social blunders.

    Indeed it is just reinforcing insecurity and low self esteem. Maybe this should be a thread in its own right, but do people on the spectrum feel Social Stories and like methods helped them or made things worse?

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