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you can't the blame aspergers

peter0003

Hi All,  

       There is a lot of other things about my asperger's I don't understand and how to get the message across to those people who need to know that I mean no harm when I talk to them.  Being unemployed does not help but I volunteer to do work for my church espeically in the grounds/garden and have had problems with other members of the church in what I have said to upset them. And then I'm told that I cannot blame it  on being one with aspergers, If not why not? It is the only reason I could give for the situation. I may not know what to say or not say, or even  when to  shut up.

        And my sister in law is a pain, she's a methodist minister and it she thinks she knows everything to with austism. Just because her friends son has autism she thinks she knows best for me and then thinks i'm stupid most of the time.  I  am 51 years old, have a house, can drive , use a PC & have problems with saving  money  I try to forget about her nagging.   any HELP would help.

Yours Peter0003

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  • This is an extract from my other posting:

    I think one problem is that an Aspie who is aware of his/her issues doesn't want it to become an excuse for everything. Everyone, Aspie or not will have bad days and days when they are rude, insensitve, intolerant, accidentally offensive etc. and an Aspie, like anyone, has a concience, so will want to try to distinguish between 'normal' offences and those which he really couldn't avoid.  The alternative is just to put EVERYTHING down to Aspergers which is lazy and selfish, and does the condition a great dis-service and will harm other's understanding and tolerance of it.

     

    Liken it to a physical disability. If someone has a wheelchair but some days can walk just fine with no harm or problem, but is just lazy so asks to be pushed around on those days, he's being selfish and 'abusing' his rights, which will lose sympathy for him and others who need help etc.

     

     

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  • This is an extract from my other posting:

    I think one problem is that an Aspie who is aware of his/her issues doesn't want it to become an excuse for everything. Everyone, Aspie or not will have bad days and days when they are rude, insensitve, intolerant, accidentally offensive etc. and an Aspie, like anyone, has a concience, so will want to try to distinguish between 'normal' offences and those which he really couldn't avoid.  The alternative is just to put EVERYTHING down to Aspergers which is lazy and selfish, and does the condition a great dis-service and will harm other's understanding and tolerance of it.

     

    Liken it to a physical disability. If someone has a wheelchair but some days can walk just fine with no harm or problem, but is just lazy so asks to be pushed around on those days, he's being selfish and 'abusing' his rights, which will lose sympathy for him and others who need help etc.

     

     

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