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you can't the blame aspergers

peter0003

Hi All,  

       There is a lot of other things about my asperger's I don't understand and how to get the message across to those people who need to know that I mean no harm when I talk to them.  Being unemployed does not help but I volunteer to do work for my church espeically in the grounds/garden and have had problems with other members of the church in what I have said to upset them. And then I'm told that I cannot blame it  on being one with aspergers, If not why not? It is the only reason I could give for the situation. I may not know what to say or not say, or even  when to  shut up.

        And my sister in law is a pain, she's a methodist minister and it she thinks she knows everything to with austism. Just because her friends son has autism she thinks she knows best for me and then thinks i'm stupid most of the time.  I  am 51 years old, have a house, can drive , use a PC & have problems with saving  money  I try to forget about her nagging.   any HELP would help.

Yours Peter0003

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  • Hi Peter

    do you know what it is that you say that offends people?

    My son offends people when he is particularly stressed about things; I also know that he cant control his reactions. I am used to his outbursts but others arent. This morning, I took my son out for breakfast and I knew that he was stressed about something so I was ready for the difficult conversations we were going to have. When he is like this, everything seems to wind him up, and he makes comments about others around who he feels are saying or doing the wrong thing; obviously others hear what he is saying and it offends.

    To be honest Peter, Im not sure what to do in these situations as it seems whatever I say or do increases his stress levels and he ends up shouting at me.

    Needless to say breakfast was a disaster and I think that we managed 15 minutes before we had to leave.

    Its always sad when family and friends dont understand that sometimes things are beyond control, especially when they live to Christian, non judgemental rules.

    You can only do your best Peter do you have anyone who understands you?

     

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  • Hi Peter

    do you know what it is that you say that offends people?

    My son offends people when he is particularly stressed about things; I also know that he cant control his reactions. I am used to his outbursts but others arent. This morning, I took my son out for breakfast and I knew that he was stressed about something so I was ready for the difficult conversations we were going to have. When he is like this, everything seems to wind him up, and he makes comments about others around who he feels are saying or doing the wrong thing; obviously others hear what he is saying and it offends.

    To be honest Peter, Im not sure what to do in these situations as it seems whatever I say or do increases his stress levels and he ends up shouting at me.

    Needless to say breakfast was a disaster and I think that we managed 15 minutes before we had to leave.

    Its always sad when family and friends dont understand that sometimes things are beyond control, especially when they live to Christian, non judgemental rules.

    You can only do your best Peter do you have anyone who understands you?

     

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