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Anyone Like Me Here ?

Paull

I want to talk to someone like me - maybe it will be a good kind of therapy or help, I'm not sure, but I feel a bit alone in that I think nobody can really understand whats going on in my mind unless the same thing is going on in theirs !!

Firstly -and probably the main thing is noise - I wish people would try to be quieter, stop banging, shouting, screaming, playing music especially with bass, also sudden noise or repetitive noise I just want to get away from. I have diagnosed severe hyperacusis.

Next is hygiene - but only obsessively when it comes to food preparation and eating. Before using any dish, cup or crockery item I rinse them in boiling hot water and I am always washing my hands and conscious of touching things which means that I can not touch any food unless I wash my hands again. (you should see me make a sandwich !!!) If I go out to eat then there will probably be some ridiculous scenario regarding something not being cooked or dirty crockery - I often order a cup of tea just to dip the crockery in to make sure its got no germs on !

Also I will only eat hot cooked food unless prepared by myself. I worry about catching something because I know the person who has prepared the food might not care about hygiene so much, I would never eat anything like a salad outside, some of these kitchens use the same chopping board for everything etc...

Also I am so aware of catching a bug or flu - I hate it when I get on a bus/tube etc and someone is coughing and sneezing, I have to get off. If someone I know (and thats only a handful of people) has got flu or a cold or even a slight sniffle I don't want to see them or be in the same room as them.

Also I cannot stand people who live with pets - like a cat or dog, I can't understand how these people allow pets to walk outside then inside and all over the carpet an furniture, slobber, hairs etc...I love animals but they belong in the wild.

Another thing is morals and ethics, mine are very strong, I cannot stand any kind of injustice or wrongdoing and I am always quick to spot it.

I am also a genius, but very flawed. I can write beautiful words but find them hard to speak if I am not relaxed in the company.

I also have a thing about fat people, although I wouldnt say I was skinny myself. I just get irritated when I see a fat person because I really for the life of me don't understand how they could allow their body to get into that state. Despite all the excuses they make it's a simple mathematical equation of too much intake of calories.

And finally I can't stand foreign accents or language, I have to get away from anyone speaking them, I don't know exactly why, I think it's because my brain can't deciper it yet when it's in front of me I feel like I am being forced to listen to it so I have to get away.

Anyone else here have any similar thinking or behaviours ???

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  • Hi Hope,

    yes you do sound like my shadow ...almost !!!

    The kitchen flannel -  I have to make sure its been in boiling water, but still wash my hands after touching it, another problem is I wash my hands in hot water ot make sure all the germs are gone, and if I wash them too much then they get sore. Yes, when I eat fruit or fresh veg I always pour boiling water over them first as well !!!

    If I go out and someone is coughing/sneezing etc then I've even resorted to pulling my coat over my mouth and nose, I guess I must look stupid but at least I am cutting down the risk of catching something. I thought about having a surgical mask ready, but infections enter though the eyes as well, so maybe I need glasses and a mask - hmm, think thats going too far ...so will stick with the coat over the head for emergencies !!!!

    Yes, I know some places can have a high hygiene rating, but to me it still doesn't hold sway... I know I take it too far, but thats just the world I live in, I know if someone else made a sandwich for me then they will no doubt open a fridge/cupboard etc then touch food with the same hand, use a chopping board thats not newly washed etc...etc..it doesn't bear thinking about, I would rather avoid it and do it myself, thats the only way I can be 100%.

    I forgot about perfume as well, I have to get off the bus - I wonder why people are sitting there not coughing and spluttering sometimes, the smell takes over the entire bus/room etc..

    I dont get irritated by words, but people pretending to be sincere/care when they are obviously not, is this what you mean ?...I know some traits in ASD means some people can't understand facial expressions, but to me its the opposite, I understand them completely and can read people like a book, tell when they are lying, trying to hide something, acting etc...so in that manner people use words to try to disguise their true feelings - but they cannot change their expression to match their words and so expose themselves - but as you cannot challenge their expression and only their words then its annoying - sometimes its so obvious ...as if someone is saying "I love you" but pulling a hateful face.. do you feel like this as well ?

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  • Hi Hope,

    yes you do sound like my shadow ...almost !!!

    The kitchen flannel -  I have to make sure its been in boiling water, but still wash my hands after touching it, another problem is I wash my hands in hot water ot make sure all the germs are gone, and if I wash them too much then they get sore. Yes, when I eat fruit or fresh veg I always pour boiling water over them first as well !!!

    If I go out and someone is coughing/sneezing etc then I've even resorted to pulling my coat over my mouth and nose, I guess I must look stupid but at least I am cutting down the risk of catching something. I thought about having a surgical mask ready, but infections enter though the eyes as well, so maybe I need glasses and a mask - hmm, think thats going too far ...so will stick with the coat over the head for emergencies !!!!

    Yes, I know some places can have a high hygiene rating, but to me it still doesn't hold sway... I know I take it too far, but thats just the world I live in, I know if someone else made a sandwich for me then they will no doubt open a fridge/cupboard etc then touch food with the same hand, use a chopping board thats not newly washed etc...etc..it doesn't bear thinking about, I would rather avoid it and do it myself, thats the only way I can be 100%.

    I forgot about perfume as well, I have to get off the bus - I wonder why people are sitting there not coughing and spluttering sometimes, the smell takes over the entire bus/room etc..

    I dont get irritated by words, but people pretending to be sincere/care when they are obviously not, is this what you mean ?...I know some traits in ASD means some people can't understand facial expressions, but to me its the opposite, I understand them completely and can read people like a book, tell when they are lying, trying to hide something, acting etc...so in that manner people use words to try to disguise their true feelings - but they cannot change their expression to match their words and so expose themselves - but as you cannot challenge their expression and only their words then its annoying - sometimes its so obvious ...as if someone is saying "I love you" but pulling a hateful face.. do you feel like this as well ?

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