shopping what a nightmare!

Went shopping today and what a nightmare! i knew it would be i warned my daughter all week that sat was going to be shopping day. The trouble started before we even got in the car she kept saying i don't want to go in a loud screaming voice when we eventually  got going harriet decided that she needed the toilet and couldn't wait she screamed i'm going to wee myself so i had to stop at the side of the road. When we got to the shopping centre she ran off refused to hold my hand. Harriet is 5 and i have three other children aged 9,7 and 2 my other children are not perfect but know when to behave . My husband asked her to hold his hand and be a good girl she shouted and started kicking and hitting him. I went into a book shop and harriet layed on the floor pulling the books off the shelfs i try to stay calm and get on her level but its like talking to a brick wall she just grins at me i feel powerless. Harriets not yet been diagnosed but her pediatrician suspects aspergers i end up in tears begging her to behave but its like she just looks straight through me. I love her so much but its hard very draining at the minute i feel like i'm walking around like a zombie. xx

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  • I think Crystal's advice is very sound. I think it would be better for both you and Harriet if she didn't go shopping - it is one of the worst things to do - there are other NT things you can do that would be more enjoyable. There isn't any benefit for anyone if the "normal family things" make everyone anxious or miserable.  I get to the supermarket at 7.30 am but there is still noise I hate and have to grit my teeth to bear, even though the only other customers ( 4 yesterday ) are the same people every week.

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  • I think Crystal's advice is very sound. I think it would be better for both you and Harriet if she didn't go shopping - it is one of the worst things to do - there are other NT things you can do that would be more enjoyable. There isn't any benefit for anyone if the "normal family things" make everyone anxious or miserable.  I get to the supermarket at 7.30 am but there is still noise I hate and have to grit my teeth to bear, even though the only other customers ( 4 yesterday ) are the same people every week.

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