Hi,
Firstly thanks so much for reading this, all advice is welcome.
Me and my partner have been together 1.5yrs. we have a great connection and our relationship is generally a good one. The more I'm getting to know him the more I am working out he is autistic. And has been massively misunderstood a lot of his life, causing trauma and broken down relationships with family and partners.
He definitely finds it hard to voice how he feels to me and I can tell keeps things in for weeks then goes bang hitting his limit.
Is there any way I can help this? If you could give me a plan to follow what would it be?
Our sex life has always been great, he appeared pleased, happy to have sex, sometimes every day often 3/4 times a week. A very touchy feely person, always hugging and kissing me. However this last few months the sex side of things has changed dramatically. I have tried to chat with him about it and his response "I just can't be fucking ***, I really can't. I'm not interested".
So looking at the bigger picture, trying to take an outsider's view, he is massively stressed with work. Due to sickness and being the boss he is working double the hours he usually does, very early starts and work itself is crap (food retail) very very busy time of year but little stock, lots of unhappy customers etc. He's great at his job and has got to the top of the ladder because of this however in the last 2 months has voiced he currently hates his job right now.
Would you say the stress is taking over and having an impact on sex?
Is there something else?
What can I do/say to support him? I certainly dont want to make it worse for him.
He struggles to talk about feelings full stop but hates talking about sex massively. Have you experienced/feel like this?
I would like to understand more as our relationship is great and don't want to end up feeling unwanted & unloved down to lack of understanding.
