I am sick of not understanding what I have done wrong

Alisha, I'm a sixty year old Bloke, and I'm still getting that sort of guff! 

It's because (I believe, I may not be right) we miss the early cues that we should pick up on, and they soon discover that to get the desired result quickly screaming at us works. Also we tend to appear to be naturally unco-operative, often sometimes in my case when I am trying to be super co-operative. 

Here, where it's logical to expect a fair degree of acceptance, and maybe even a little help, when you actually read the threads, you can see how that works out a bit sub-optimal sometimes, even between us.  

If you would like to learn how to do the right things more often and avoid some of the more avoidable gaffes we can make, I recommend a book alll over this site, called games people play by eric berne, real cheap on ebay second hand, or frree from a library, when he explains an awful lot we Autists don't seem to have "pre-installed". 

Hope that helps. You will learn how to do the right thing, and your autism will very likely allow you to keep thinking and operating and finding solutions when many loose their minds, so it isn't all bad. But sucessful Autists are tolerant of the abuse from others, it seems to come with the gifts that they make the most of.

Alisha, I'm a sixty year old Bloke, and I'm still getting that sort of guff! 

It's because (I believe, I may not be right) we miss the early cues that we should pick up on, and they soon discover that to get the desired result quickly screaming at us works. Also we tend to appear to be naturally unco-operative, often sometimes in my case when I am trying to be super co-operative. 

Here, where it's logical to expect a fair degree of acceptance, and maybe even a little help, when you actually read the threads, you can see how that works out a bit sub-optimal sometimes, even between us.  

If you would like to learn how to do the right things more often and avoid some of the more avoidable gaffes we can make, I recommend a book alll over this site, called games people play by eric berne, real cheap on ebay second hand, or frree from a library, when he explains an awful lot we Autists don't seem to have "pre-installed". 

Hope that helps. You will learn how to do the right thing, and your autism will very likely allow you to keep thinking and operating and finding solutions when many loose their minds, so it isn't all bad. But sucessful Autists are tolerant of the abuse from others, it seems to come with the gifts that they make the most of.