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Recommendation please: Assessment of girls

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I hope my title isn't offensive to anyone. I finally got a referral for my kids from work GP and have a choice of private assessment. Referral is for open psych assessment as GP wasn't sure about autism in particular about my daughter. I now need to choose somewhere appropriate preferably not too far away. Around N/E London area. 

Has anyone had a good experience of starting out with descriptions of "behaviour difficulties" that don't meet with prejudice, especially in girls? If you have any recommendations for good places/people and time to explain briefly the process they used, I'd be really grateful.

I am really scared that by going further I'm putting my kids in for a rough ride with the whole process. I haven't been diagnosed myself but identified a high number of traits and I'm so afraid I'm about to mess up my kids even more seeing as they get judged enough already as it is.

Thank you in advance.

Parents

  • As a woman I would've loved to have a diagnostic as a child. Although, not having a reason for all of these frustrations in life did end up driving a remarkable amount of investigation that perhaps I may not have discovered otherwise. 

    I'm still single and in my 40's. I tend to either attract men who are ADHD and exhausting to be around or ones who are hyper-NT and a bit predatory. I've learned the ADHD ones are more safe.

    I took a logic class which really helped with language and improv classes which helped with social situations and yoga / acrobatics which helped with motor skills. Learning to engage my senses, not be rushed, and really fine-tune my perceptions by not allowing others to dismiss them (which happens all the time to females in society) has done wonders for my perception of self. It's important for girls to understand their limits and strengths to be able to ward off what society will throw at them. Just my thoughts!

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  • As a woman I would've loved to have a diagnostic as a child. Although, not having a reason for all of these frustrations in life did end up driving a remarkable amount of investigation that perhaps I may not have discovered otherwise. 

    I'm still single and in my 40's. I tend to either attract men who are ADHD and exhausting to be around or ones who are hyper-NT and a bit predatory. I've learned the ADHD ones are more safe.

    I took a logic class which really helped with language and improv classes which helped with social situations and yoga / acrobatics which helped with motor skills. Learning to engage my senses, not be rushed, and really fine-tune my perceptions by not allowing others to dismiss them (which happens all the time to females in society) has done wonders for my perception of self. It's important for girls to understand their limits and strengths to be able to ward off what society will throw at them. Just my thoughts!

Children
  • in reply to JuniperFromGallifrey

    Thank you for your reply. Did you get an official diagnosis? I believe I'm possibly on the spectrum and my partner is most likely ADHD. It's been a long hard slog so far, totally excruciatingly exhausting but at least I haven't suffered from insomnia so much since being together because I've been physically spent. That said I'm knackered right now but my mind is buzzing because we just had a bit of a debate so I'm on here... I've been wondering about what the right thing to do is. I think part of the reason I'm struggling with this is a huge case of imposter syndrome and wondering if it's all in my head plus being afraid someone's going to put a wrong label on my kids if it's someone who ends up just ticking boxes and there not being the right ones available to tick... Sorry for the ramble!