AS partner cheating

I was in the same situation, so I empathise. For those saying it's not cheating, in my situation it was a huge issue with disloyalty and most definitely ticked the cheating box. My ex had a lot of relationships like this with his exes. Some of his exes would make up rumours about me and slander me to him. He told me some what they'd said and I was horrified. One of them in particular was really awful. She made up fake stories about encounters with me and even referred to me as a b*tch on more than one occasion. I'd never interacted with her, but we'd gone to the same college, so we knew of each other. She also asked him to look at pictures of her, and no, not innocent pictures. She also spoke to him constantly about sex. His ex fiance was also telling him that she missed him and wished she'd never cheated on him and that she didn't like her current bf. She and my ex had been broken up for 12 years at this point.The behaviour of the exes was freaking me out massively, coz I couldn't figure out what I'd done to incur such hatred. He very candidly told me that he knew they were liars/lying but it didn't worry him. I begged him just to speak to them about this as it was so hurtful that they were saying things like this about me and he didn't even attempt to defend me, but he just said they weren't hurting his feelings, so... My MO is usually if something like this occurs I organise a meetup with the person to discuss what the beef is and figure out a solution. I couldn't do that here though, as he'd told me these things in confidence and I didn't want to break his trust. He didn't have a lot of friends, so I didn't want to ruin any friendships for him, but I was very unhappy because he was not playing fair. He had no sense of loyalty and would often toss me to the wolves in order to save his own skin when ever he caused a situation. Not only that, I found out just after our 1yr anniversary that he was on a dating site. He denied being aware that he was using a dating site and then claimed that he couldn't log in to the site to delete the profile because he couldn't remember log in details. 1) this guy had a book with all the login deets he used sitting a few cm from his elbow 2) he was in IT. He knows what the function of the "forgot password" button is. It took him a month to "deactivate" the account. He never deleted it and reinstated it almost immediately when I left him and made other accounts on 7 other dating Apps. He'd done this by the 2nd day after the break up. So, while I can't say yay or nay about whether he was cheating by sleeping with other women as I couldn't bring myself to look into this, his behaviour with the exes was cheating/cheating adjacent most definitely. He was extremely vain and needed constant applause in order to exist. Kinda like Tinkerbell. So, bottom line, everyone has the capacity to cheat, no matter what diagnosis they have.whether or not they do cheat, is dependent on their own moral code.

I was in the same situation, so I empathise. For those saying it's not cheating, in my situation it was a huge issue with disloyalty and most definitely ticked the cheating box. My ex had a lot of relationships like this with his exes. Some of his exes would make up rumours about me and slander me to him. He told me some what they'd said and I was horrified. One of them in particular was really awful. She made up fake stories about encounters with me and even referred to me as a b*tch on more than one occasion. I'd never interacted with her, but we'd gone to the same college, so we knew of each other. She also asked him to look at pictures of her, and no, not innocent pictures. She also spoke to him constantly about sex. His ex fiance was also telling him that she missed him and wished she'd never cheated on him and that she didn't like her current bf. She and my ex had been broken up for 12 years at this point.The behaviour of the exes was freaking me out massively, coz I couldn't figure out what I'd done to incur such hatred. He very candidly told me that he knew they were liars/lying but it didn't worry him. I begged him just to speak to them about this as it was so hurtful that they were saying things like this about me and he didn't even attempt to defend me, but he just said they weren't hurting his feelings, so... My MO is usually if something like this occurs I organise a meetup with the person to discuss what the beef is and figure out a solution. I couldn't do that here though, as he'd told me these things in confidence and I didn't want to break his trust. He didn't have a lot of friends, so I didn't want to ruin any friendships for him, but I was very unhappy because he was not playing fair. He had no sense of loyalty and would often toss me to the wolves in order to save his own skin when ever he caused a situation. Not only that, I found out just after our 1yr anniversary that he was on a dating site. He denied being aware that he was using a dating site and then claimed that he couldn't log in to the site to delete the profile because he couldn't remember log in details. 1) this guy had a book with all the login deets he used sitting a few cm from his elbow 2) he was in IT. He knows what the function of the "forgot password" button is. It took him a month to "deactivate" the account. He never deleted it and reinstated it almost immediately when I left him and made other accounts on 7 other dating Apps. He'd done this by the 2nd day after the break up. So, while I can't say yay or nay about whether he was cheating by sleeping with other women as I couldn't bring myself to look into this, his behaviour with the exes was cheating/cheating adjacent most definitely. He was extremely vain and needed constant applause in order to exist. Kinda like Tinkerbell. So, bottom line, everyone has the capacity to cheat, no matter what diagnosis they have.whether or not they do cheat, is dependent on their own moral code.