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AS partner cheating

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Hi, I'm new to this but my partner is recently self-diagnosed AS. He is very intelligent and high-functioning. I just found out that he's being cheating on me in a non-sexual relationship for 3 years with a much, much younger woman  (And, please, before anyone asks, yes, you can cheat without sex or even romance.) Having given this a LOT of thought I think this is more to do with narcissistic personality traits than AS. He's done online tests for various personality disorders and this one fits best to his characteristics, although I appreciate it's all very fluid. Any (helpful) comments or advice gratefully received. 

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  • I'm really sorry to hear he's been cheating on you. I have to say, though, perhaps he hasn't got a diagnosis at all...perhaps he just isn't a nice person or a good partner? As my wife says, 'being an a***hole isn't a symptom of Autism'. Whether he is Autistic or not, cheating on one's partner is not a symptom of Autism. Plenty of neurotypical people do it all the time.

    Either way, I think you're better off without him, although I get that that's much easier said than done. If you're looking online to see whether or not your partner is a diagnosable narcissist, then I would imagine that the relationship isn't very happy and that you deserve better.

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  • I'm really sorry to hear he's been cheating on you. I have to say, though, perhaps he hasn't got a diagnosis at all...perhaps he just isn't a nice person or a good partner? As my wife says, 'being an a***hole isn't a symptom of Autism'. Whether he is Autistic or not, cheating on one's partner is not a symptom of Autism. Plenty of neurotypical people do it all the time.

    Either way, I think you're better off without him, although I get that that's much easier said than done. If you're looking online to see whether or not your partner is a diagnosable narcissist, then I would imagine that the relationship isn't very happy and that you deserve better.

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