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HELP NEW TO THIS AND NEEDING ADVICE PLEASE

inverlass

4 year old daughter newly diagnosed,dont know, what to do or who to turn to she has just started mainstream nursery and the class has got so large she cannot cope and i am struggling to get her home after nursery and she is constantly trying to grab and smother toddlers and babies.It took the teacher ,a mum and myself that was in tears to get her to let go of a wee one today,luckily the mum was so nice but i cannot go anywhere and she lunges at babies in buggies or toddlers.Im scared and feel I have no support from anyone my husband is in denial has made no effort to learn about autism and his answer to todays upset was "tell her she wont get back to nursery if she does that again"god if it was only that easy,fool he is we have two older children and about time he realised he needs to parent our little one differently.Any IDEAS,have contacted edu physc but no reply as yet as feel she would benefit from a smaller group or specialized help but dont know where to access information X

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  • Hi again - I hope the seminar is helpful to all of you.  Your daughter may have a sensory problem with the sound of crying.  Imagine having to listen to finger nails being scratched repeatedly for hours on end down a blackboard or similar - that could be our equivalent to what she goes through each day at nursery + in other places.  It'll get a bit worse for her each time she hears the crying.  So if she does have a noise sensitivity then she'll find the nursery a very stressful environment.

    About family - from what you say it appears she isn't clear about who's family + who isn't.  My son is the same altho he isn't particularly into cuddles.  Perhaps she's confused?   Would she understand if you could find a way of saying to her that it's only the 2 of you who give + get cuddles or that she can only cuddle in certain places in the home?  

    Back to the children - On the 1 hand the noise seriously upsets her.  On the other hand she's probably been told to be nice to little ones?  Confusing.  She may not have any sympathy at all to these children because what they do upsets her.  As you say children are difficult to avoid so the nursery may not be a good environment for her.  I hope your meeting goes well + things move on positively.  bw

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  • Hi again - I hope the seminar is helpful to all of you.  Your daughter may have a sensory problem with the sound of crying.  Imagine having to listen to finger nails being scratched repeatedly for hours on end down a blackboard or similar - that could be our equivalent to what she goes through each day at nursery + in other places.  It'll get a bit worse for her each time she hears the crying.  So if she does have a noise sensitivity then she'll find the nursery a very stressful environment.

    About family - from what you say it appears she isn't clear about who's family + who isn't.  My son is the same altho he isn't particularly into cuddles.  Perhaps she's confused?   Would she understand if you could find a way of saying to her that it's only the 2 of you who give + get cuddles or that she can only cuddle in certain places in the home?  

    Back to the children - On the 1 hand the noise seriously upsets her.  On the other hand she's probably been told to be nice to little ones?  Confusing.  She may not have any sympathy at all to these children because what they do upsets her.  As you say children are difficult to avoid so the nursery may not be a good environment for her.  I hope your meeting goes well + things move on positively.  bw

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