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Very annoying name 'habit'

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Hello again, wow, this is the most amount of 'socialising' I've done in, well, since I last came here.

Before it dies out, another question.

I have an extremely annoying habit of saying a person's name either at the beginning or end of every sentence and I absolutely hate it, but I can't stop it.

In my last job, some of my colleagues avoided speaking to me for this reason and my long time friend has even said to me you've known me all this time, stop with the name!

I did try to speak to an OT about it once but rightly,  she said I have much bigger problems to attend to, that made me laugh, but I am very curious.

Is it some kind of 'tic' or 'compulsion'? Does this happen to anyone else?

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  • The complexity I think you may be running into is that NTs do this as an aggressive dominance tactic. I think Ricky Gervais used this power-tool in The Office. It’s a way of asserting ones authority over another. 

    Ive has males use this command-use of language on me specifically when they become angry. 

    Now, after enough research, including peeling through The 48 Laws Of Power (rather vomit-y book), I’ve decided I cannot possibly always be mindful about every ridiculous tool NTs use to control one another. But it has been helpful for me, in business, to be mindful I don’t communicate the wrong thing. 

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  • The complexity I think you may be running into is that NTs do this as an aggressive dominance tactic. I think Ricky Gervais used this power-tool in The Office. It’s a way of asserting ones authority over another. 

    Ive has males use this command-use of language on me specifically when they become angry. 

    Now, after enough research, including peeling through The 48 Laws Of Power (rather vomit-y book), I’ve decided I cannot possibly always be mindful about every ridiculous tool NTs use to control one another. But it has been helpful for me, in business, to be mindful I don’t communicate the wrong thing. 

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  • in reply to JuniperFromGallifrey

    Hello JFG - sorry that's just a bit too long for me!

    That is very interesting indeed, it was a small office I worked in at the time (although I have not seen The Office show). 

    What a great example of how communication can be so easily misunderstood and also another's motives.

    I'm not sure I'd manage that book though, but I can see how it would be helpful for you in something like business. It was an area of my job which really let me down, I was very good at other aspects of it, but the networking, building and maintaining relationships was a major downfall.

    The last psychiatrist I spoke to said "life is all about managing relationships", and then nothing, it was only much later as usual when I had the thought I would have liked to have replied, "ok, so tell me how I do that then".