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I think my siblings are autistic but my mum is refusing to get them tested.

NAS71534

Hi people my names Ellie and i’m looking for advice.


I was diagnosed a few years ago as I was under the care of CAMHS and they noticed that I was displaying traits. My parents were totally cool about it and even looked into what it means to be autistic.

However, I’ve been bringing up that I think my siblings are autistic too and that they should get tested because if they are then it’ll explain their experience and they’ll be able to access support/accommodations easier if they need it now or in the future. Every time I bring it up my mum says “no they’re not”, “if they are it isn’t impacting them” or just gets generally really weird and defensive about it. 

Today, I brought it up again and said directly to my sister that I think she’s autistic and my mum got angry and told me off. 

This is hella weird right? I don’t understand her thought process at all because she’s educated about autism and totally cool and accommodating with me? 

Can anyone give any insight or advice on how to handle this? I don’t want my siblings to go undiagnosed and without support/accommodations if they need it.

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  • Speak to your siblings and ask hem if there is anything that they struggle with, I wouldn't specifically say to them you think they're autistic but you can deduce from their answers if they seem like autistic struggles and then you can go to your mum and say "look ive spoken to ... and they struggled with ... and that's very autistic and it needs to be taken seriously" and see where it goes from there

    How old are your siblings btw?

  • in reply to O

    Thank for replying :) 

    I have already spoken with my sister (age 12) and she experiences quite a few autistic traits and I’ve noticed things myself like she doesn’t have control over tone/volume of voice, she vocally stims a lot, she doesn’t understand social cues or social norms etc. 

    My other sibling is 14. 

  • in reply to NAS71534

    Keep talking to them and really find as much as you can about them on a bit more of deeper level if you can write things down even then when you feel you have enough information try again with your mum show her that you’ve been really taking and listening to your siblings and maybe see if you can your mum to talk to them and get your siblings to open up to your mum about how they feel.

    bottom line is you’re not going to get anywhere if you don’t talk to eachother and learn as much as you can about them then take it from there 

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  • in reply to NAS71534

    Keep talking to them and really find as much as you can about them on a bit more of deeper level if you can write things down even then when you feel you have enough information try again with your mum show her that you’ve been really taking and listening to your siblings and maybe see if you can your mum to talk to them and get your siblings to open up to your mum about how they feel.

    bottom line is you’re not going to get anywhere if you don’t talk to eachother and learn as much as you can about them then take it from there 

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