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I think my siblings are autistic but my mum is refusing to get them tested.

NAS71534

Hi people my names Ellie and i’m looking for advice.


I was diagnosed a few years ago as I was under the care of CAMHS and they noticed that I was displaying traits. My parents were totally cool about it and even looked into what it means to be autistic.

However, I’ve been bringing up that I think my siblings are autistic too and that they should get tested because if they are then it’ll explain their experience and they’ll be able to access support/accommodations easier if they need it now or in the future. Every time I bring it up my mum says “no they’re not”, “if they are it isn’t impacting them” or just gets generally really weird and defensive about it. 

Today, I brought it up again and said directly to my sister that I think she’s autistic and my mum got angry and told me off. 

This is hella weird right? I don’t understand her thought process at all because she’s educated about autism and totally cool and accommodating with me? 

Can anyone give any insight or advice on how to handle this? I don’t want my siblings to go undiagnosed and without support/accommodations if they need it.

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  • Lots of parents are extremely uncomfortable with the thought that they produce a 'faulty' child.      It's a real sense of guilt of producing a child that is going to to have to struggle to get through life.

    Imagine if they have a full set.......   What does that say about them too - faulty genes - but also a realisation that they might not ever leave home - so retirement plans are going down the drain.

    There's lots of angles to think of.

  • in reply to Plastic

    Thanks for your perspective! I haven’t thought of it like that before.

    Ahhh if that’s the case then the conversation with her about it is gonna be really difficult. 

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