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Hope Therapy?

Plastic
over 3 years ago

I'm being sent on 'Hope Therapy' at the hospice in a few weeks.    It's designed to motivate terminally ill people to look at the bright side of their situation and motivate them off of the sofa.

I'm not sure if I should go.        I have a huge extrovert personality, the engineer in me has already sorted my priorities and bucket list and it putting it all in action.   I've dealt with all the trash of my life and I've sorted all the paperwork of my existence.

The program is very mindfulness / hope diary based - I'm not sure that's at all compatible with me - I can't imagine Mr Data taking part..   It seems aimed at people who are crushed by their diagnosis and situation.    The research all seems from over 30 years ago - mainly in 3rd world countries - not sure how well that transfers to the UK.

Unfortunately, I'm the most positive, motivated, up-beat, energised, go-getting - depressed - person on the planet.

I'm actually concerned that I will damage or break the other people in the group when they are most vulnerable.

Has anyone else heard of this program and has it helped anyone you knew?

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  • over 3 years ago

    I don’t think you should go. I’m not sure I would cope with your diagnosis as well as you, and I still wouldn’t go myself. I just think it’ll be full of people sat round grizzling about who’s to blame and how unfair it all is etc, etc. The last thing you need.

    Stay positive and keep engineering the solutions.

  • over 3 years ago in reply to The Riddler

    Everyone copes with things differently.     My father in law just sat on the sofa for 2 years until the end.    Another friend went out every day with family and friends and off on holidays until he passed.

    I'm just finishing chemo 8 and I'll be starting chemo 9 next week.   Been out to pub lunches a few times and had friends over lots - got another friend coming on Friday for lunch.      While I'm decorating 2 bedrooms and finishing the house.

    Better to burn out than to fade away! (Highlander) Smiley

  • over 3 years ago in reply to Plastic

    My father retired at 65 and sat on the sofa getting fat, moaning about everything and being racist! Watching life pass him by. This is why I have no sympathy that he is now in a care home with dementia.

    If you don’t use it, you’ll loose it.

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  • over 3 years ago in reply to Plastic

    My father retired at 65 and sat on the sofa getting fat, moaning about everything and being racist! Watching life pass him by. This is why I have no sympathy that he is now in a care home with dementia.

    If you don’t use it, you’ll loose it.

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