Absolutely mentally exhausted parent

i hope you and your husband can stick with it - if possible. after my diagnosis, there was no help. so i sort of no how you feel. you're just out in the lurch. for me, i read a lot of books about asd-- which is what i think you have to do. lots of books --- there's a book by ron suskind, a journalist, life animated, about raising his asd kid. there's this forum - it's pretty helpful. you can post questions here and get support and advice. try to find other forums... try to network,...   

then there is therapy, which is what i recommend highly. but i hope you can find the right therapist, one who really knows asd. if they don't no asd, they probably are kind of useless.

it'll be a longish road, but hopefully it will get easier. personally, i have to take it one day at a time. if i look too far ahead - it's just too much. 

i think other people can offer more practical support for your child... 

in terms of pills, i've held off myself. now, i am looking at sensitivities, limiting those, i watch my diet, i try to find things i'm interested in... i'm kind of looking at my asd as really the cause of my anxiety. taking pills is one option ---- i guess. trying to do everything to mitigate the asd is another option.

I now how u feel ,i found that my son started to become more stable after 9,his behaviour was worst at about 7 ,he is 13 now and much easier to  live with. Outside pressures cause a lot of stress ,which he will not understand ,the thing to remember is it is even harder for him as he is 9 and has asd.Thats what i tell myself when things are hard. You just have to be the stable nad fair thing in his life .I know it is easy to say ,but try to think of the bigger picture not the little things

so sorry u're having such a shitty time

can you please the following Parent - to Parent helpline 

www.autism.org.uk/.../parent-to-parent

it also has a online from if u dont want to wait in a queue and prefer a call back

hope this helps