Hi, I was bullied when I was at school and I thought I'd had my fair share, but obviously not. I'm now 37 and I've been accused by my next-door neighbour of not acknowledging her a few times....she's in her early 70's and she has had a go at me several times. I know I'm not very good at knowing the social rules about when to say hello to people and whether I should or not, even if I know them well. I've always had a problem with it - even when I see people on a daily basis sometimes - I don't know whether it's right to talk to them or what I should say. When I was working in a hospital, I used to creep in so I didn't have to go through the anxiety of knowing what to do or say. And I'd wait for people to say hello to me first.
I was really good friends with her until about 9 months ago and she suddenly had a massive go at me about not knowing what's wrong with me. I know she knows I have some mental health problems (due to undiagnosed aspergers), but she doesn't know anything about maybe I have Asperger's because I only found out myself a few months ago.
I haven't done anything wrong - everyone I know says I haven't. The thing is, if she said the things she thinks to me to my face, then I would maybe understand it a bit more....but she does it by putting her collar up on the bus so she can't see me, she makes a point of crossing the road infront of me and then totally blanking me with a horrible face. At the bus-stop too, she makes a point of laughing and joking with every one else and totally ignoring me....I dread seeing her as I don't know what to do - I was taught to always be polite to people and it's hard to not be.
Sorry I'm having a right old moan, but has anyone else had this sort of problem - being bullied as an adult, or having the same sort of social problems?
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