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whats going on in his mind

catlover

I have 7 year old grandson with aspergers he can be very violent to his mum my daughter kicking punching swearing When things are calm again she talks about what the problem was.She one time asked Are you happy? His reply I dont know Then asked are you sad? His reply I dont know Whats the difference? This makes me feel very SAD.When he is ok and not getting angry he seems happy and content.BUT when he is upset it breaks my heart to think of whats going on in his mind

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  • 'happy' and 'sad' are a little vague. It is all relative. Mybe you could first help him identify what he 'likes' and 'doesn't like'. Then help him associate them with 'happy' and 'sad'.

    I work quite differently emotionally than my partner. Neither way is particularly right or wrong. We both experience challenges and problems differently. She gets alot out of a hug for example, I prefer the same energy to be spent on practical change. Reassuringly ther is common ground though. Its just about understanding

    I really find pretty open questions such as 'how are you?' difficult. It is impossible to tell if they are just 'passing the time of day' or actually want to know some information.

    By the way is your daughter recieving support in any way? There are plenty of books out there that may prove useful.

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  • 'happy' and 'sad' are a little vague. It is all relative. Mybe you could first help him identify what he 'likes' and 'doesn't like'. Then help him associate them with 'happy' and 'sad'.

    I work quite differently emotionally than my partner. Neither way is particularly right or wrong. We both experience challenges and problems differently. She gets alot out of a hug for example, I prefer the same energy to be spent on practical change. Reassuringly ther is common ground though. Its just about understanding

    I really find pretty open questions such as 'how are you?' difficult. It is impossible to tell if they are just 'passing the time of day' or actually want to know some information.

    By the way is your daughter recieving support in any way? There are plenty of books out there that may prove useful.

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