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Think my partner is autistic

snowflake24

Hi All,

Just joined as hoping to get some advice and support. I have been with my boyfriend for well over a year now and as that time has passed, I have become more and more aware of certain behaviours of his that have 'autistic' traits.

The problem is, is that I know he's never been diagnosed with it (from some very subtle snooping) and I dont think he's aware these can make being in the relationship incredibly difficult at times.

Obviously I'm no expert, although I work with children with autism, I realise it can present itself in different ways and so what i think are 'traits' may not be, but I wondered if anybody could suggest some next steps etc. I ask now because we've reached a very signifcant point in our relationship and I feel that discussing and thinking about moving forward will be very difficult for him.

 

Any thoughts would be appreciated! :)

 

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  • If he knows nothing about AS, or has wrong information about it, then he may react angrily, but don't let that stop you. He may need time to get used to the idea.  Maybe ask him questions first to see if he recognises the behaviours which you know are traits. Maybe even something like "did you know that these are traits on the Autism Spectrum?"

    I came to realise I had AS from a friend that worked with children with Autism. It happened over a lot of conversations, first about my Mum's behaviour, and then she said "actually you have some traits too".  Even though I have a relative who has it and lives in residential care I really didn't know what it is.  I am very glad my friend had these conversations with me. I now have had an "offical diagnosis" and it has helped me a lot to find more appropriate solutions to problems

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  • If he knows nothing about AS, or has wrong information about it, then he may react angrily, but don't let that stop you. He may need time to get used to the idea.  Maybe ask him questions first to see if he recognises the behaviours which you know are traits. Maybe even something like "did you know that these are traits on the Autism Spectrum?"

    I came to realise I had AS from a friend that worked with children with Autism. It happened over a lot of conversations, first about my Mum's behaviour, and then she said "actually you have some traits too".  Even though I have a relative who has it and lives in residential care I really didn't know what it is.  I am very glad my friend had these conversations with me. I now have had an "offical diagnosis" and it has helped me a lot to find more appropriate solutions to problems

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