What do you do/think??

hi - I think we can all react badly to certain words because we remember the context(s) in which they were used + those contexts cd have been negative.  My son has a few words he doesn't like people using.  He sees them as a criticism.   No-one wants to be criticised.  Also he likes to go at his own pace so if he has no reason to hurry up, then he won't.  On the other hand if he knows he has to keep an appt, catch a train, etc, then he'll be ready.  He will get up earlier so he isn't rushed.  I know he thinks some people are bossy in that they "take charge" of him.  Nobody wants to be bossed either.   I'm not saying you do this, but she may see things that way.  I try to use other words + plan ahead time-wise.  Also I try to include him in decision-making, explaining things to him honestly + don't rush him about that either.  He knows he has rights + he knows when to exercise them.  You don't say how old your daughter is.  Maybe her use of language is limited so when she expresses herself to you in a way that upsets you it may be the only way she has of expressing herself?  My son sometimes thinks someone doesn't love him + will say so.    He is younger than his years + doesn't differentiate between like + love, dislike + hate very well, whether these feelings are permanent or temporary.  Perhaps if you cd give us a bit more info there may be replies that may help more than this 1.  These a just a few thoughts from reading your post.

hi - I think we can all react badly to certain words because we remember the context(s) in which they were used + those contexts cd have been negative.  My son has a few words he doesn't like people using.  He sees them as a criticism.   No-one wants to be criticised.  Also he likes to go at his own pace so if he has no reason to hurry up, then he won't.  On the other hand if he knows he has to keep an appt, catch a train, etc, then he'll be ready.  He will get up earlier so he isn't rushed.  I know he thinks some people are bossy in that they "take charge" of him.  Nobody wants to be bossed either.   I'm not saying you do this, but she may see things that way.  I try to use other words + plan ahead time-wise.  Also I try to include him in decision-making, explaining things to him honestly + don't rush him about that either.  He knows he has rights + he knows when to exercise them.  You don't say how old your daughter is.  Maybe her use of language is limited so when she expresses herself to you in a way that upsets you it may be the only way she has of expressing herself?  My son sometimes thinks someone doesn't love him + will say so.    He is younger than his years + doesn't differentiate between like + love, dislike + hate very well, whether these feelings are permanent or temporary.  Perhaps if you cd give us a bit more info there may be replies that may help more than this 1.  These a just a few thoughts from reading your post.